Wednesday, August 30, 2017


Greetings Intense Souls,

Here we are together again.  Thank you for reading Fire and Ice Part One. 

If you have not already read Part One, please do this FIRST otherwise Part Deux won’t make much sense.  Here is the link: FIRE AND ICE: ILLUMINATING YOUR EXTREME INTENSE LINKS OF POWER
*Don’t worry, I will still be here waiting for you.* 

Fire & Ice Part One was designed to be the foundation base of us tapping into some new territory to explore.  

My hope is that you have some basic navigational understanding of what you may internally deal with privately in your own head/heart with your own human/soul. 

While I know this is something you may not publicly talk about or feel comfortable discussing/commenting or even liking, (as some of you have told me in social media DMs),  I am willing to remain on the course of my raw vulnerability and transparency so that YOU can benefit most.  

In Fire & Ice Part One, I discuss the smoldering fusion of the mind/heart, and human/soul connection in the cauldron that is your ‘earthly being’ vessel trying to contain it all as it simmers so YOU UNDERSTAND YOUR OWN INTENSITY.

If what I wrote helped you, then what I am about to share in Part Deux will help you flow with the river of your life’s pathway with a bit more fluidity.  EMOTIONAL COLLISION LINKS are IMPORTANT… they can actually help you!  I will show you how.

Whew!  Right?  Yes…  I know this may bring you some relief.  

Do not forget – I SEE YOU.  I KNOW YOU DESIRE INTERNAL CALMNESS and that your ultimate desire IS TO MASTER IT IN THIS LIFETIME. 
I know that sometimes YOUR INTENSE EMOTIONS have the challenge of VISCOSITY and that TAILSPIN.  (What's a tailspin? Watch the video for clarification).

I SEE that your journey up until now has been a seesaw rollercoaster of unimaginable depths of introspection as you have tried your best to take alternate routes amid your life’s challenges, disappointments, failures/false starts, and attempts to rise again through the storms. 

How do I know?  If you are reading this, then you know YOU DID NOT ARRIVE HERE ACCIDENTALLY.  The Universe KNOWS what you need.  It happens to like you, you know.
When I hear my calling for a collective need, I answer.  You are plugged in, that is why you are here.

Even if you arrived here by magnetic polarity of opposition, you still arrived here to digest what is being shared.  I know that, too.  You may be skeptical of change, but you arrived here out of curiosity (something you have been thinking about) to perhaps open your mind and heart to applying something that could be useful to you TO EMPOWER YOU ON YOUR OWN JOURNEY.  Welcome. 

I take my role as a change-agent messenger and transformational life coach seriously.  I am here to help.  If I provoke thought, inspire contemplation, provide insight, enlighten or ignite some sort of spark within, my work here is purposeful.  How you choose to apply it, is up to you if you choose to step into living your best life. 

Now, let us get into this.  Are you ready?  Let’s go! 

Since Part One addressed illumination of your extreme intense links so you can be strong to deal – Part Deux needs to address what you do with that strength NOW in light of being given more insight and “Earthly Tools” to understand dynamics to avoid emotional collision.
Your human desires order.  Your INNER ZEN and CALMNESS are dependent upon it. 

WHAT IF…  I were to tell you that your emotional collisions all this time were for your greater good, your highest purpose and that they were destined to teach you who you really are and how you show up in life and in every situation?  

Perhaps you SEE WHY Part One had to get you your strength groove in check so you can now firmly grasp the reins of Inner Zen and Calmness.  You may feel that the only way to get your footing is stability so you can RUN FREE AND RUN FORWARD.  

Rest easy, I have you, we are on the same page. 

Now how do you run free and forward? Since you have embraced your realization of your INTENSITY, from here you have to grasp your ultimate grounding – getting yourself rooted in who you are.  When September begins, I will create part three of this where we define that from the beginning. But for now, let’s use what you have.

Let’s take that intensity realization and understand you are at the control board of SELF-CARE. 

  • ·         Self-care creates balance.

  • ·         Balance creates stability.

  • ·         Stability creates a firm foundation.
  •       The firm foundation creates Inner Zen and Calmness in order to run free.

THAT is how it is designed in your LIFE MAP that not only is already embedded in your DNA, your brain, and your heart.  However, it is also embedded deeply in the Divine Plan for your life, and in the Cosmos AND LINKRONICITY™.

What?!  Hey, I do not make this stuff up. 

First, let’s address this fire & ice thing a little more for those of you curious enough to want to comprehend the human/soul/mind/heart in the realm of the Cosmos. 

Fire and water (ice) are part of polarity.  MOST people have this in their life somewhere – FOR PURPOSE. 

Do you need a tangible example?  I will use myself as the guinea pig here once again to demonstrate.

Last blog, I shared that I am a (Western) Cancerian (water) Yang Fire Horse (Eastern).  I have Scorpio in my South Node & Neptune.  I was born to a Scorpio mother (water).  My mother was born in the year of Yang FIRE. 

Yang Water-fire child.  Yang Water-fire mother.  Accident?  NO.  It is Linkronicity. 

This was part of my life’s journey and lessons to prepare me for what my journey was going to become.  My family and I have our own LINKS based on our life lessons.

Unbelievably – YOU DO, TOO!  Hang tight... let me demonstrate so you can SEE.

On the day my father was told he had two weeks to live as pancreatic cancer took over his body, my mother was undergoing a mastectomy from breast cancer.  When she came out of surgery and she was out of the hospital just a couple days later.  My father said to me “Book a flight to Hawaii.  Oh and you’re driving us to the cemetery to go pick out a plot.”  

WHAT?  Holy crap!  Are you kidding me?  I am saying this to myself inside.  I did not utter it.  Nevertheless, I am telling you, it was the hardest thing I ever had to do.  Suddenly, anything that felt difficult before paled in comparison.  Picking out a cemetery plot?  Really?  NOTHING could prepare you for shopping for a cemetery plot for BOTH of your parents, knowing that it is so final and you’re going to lose your loved one and will be doing so, in two weeks.

I drove them to the cemetery, an extremely familiar drive as I spent my entire childhood here.  My grandparents (both sides) are here.  My mother was barely walking holding her colostomy bag post mastectomy surgery.  My father was frail, just having had just had his last chemotherapy for his metastasizing cancer.  Both were barely recognizable as the parents I once knew.  My father just had his 68th birthday a few weeks earlier.  My mother was going to be turning sixty-six in just a month.  They had barely taken advantage of Senior citizen discounts and AARP status and instead were spending retirement on medical bills.  Life is short.  

I do not even remember the funeral director’s name and just did not want to believe that at just twenty-six years old, this is what I was dealing with.  Most of my peers and friends my age were with their family getting ready for Labor Day vacations and barbecues.  My Labor Day weekend would be spent discussing cremation burial options and the plot location where my father wanted to see sunsets the rest of his life.  Something was very wrong with this picture.  While there was not a mall directory here to state it…Welcome Stacey, because YOU ARE HERE.   

Reflection, Introspection, Perspective, R.I.P.  Rest in Peace.  Only back then, I could not rest and I had no peace now, knowing that my father was going to have those three letters RIP attached to his name in just two weeks.  I was about to bury my father and he knew it on levels that go beyond my knowing it.  He already knew when to the day.  Sadly, it would be the day for the plane departure from LAX to Hawaii. While I had peace knowing he was part of this decision-making process, it was not enough peace.  How could it be?

Even though he and I had many talks and I had closure/peace with that factor, it still was not enough peace.  It just wasn’t.  The human part of me kept thinking how unfair it was.  The soul part of me somehow accepted that this is how my life was going to look like from here on without him.  The answer to “Who are you?” now had spray painted graffiti on my specially- constructed childhood mural.  I had to answer that with how I showed up.  My emotional collision was here… and how I navigated through it ALONE was up to me.

Oddly enough, he was at peace… at least externally.  I never saw him break, even though the show biz me was optimistically hoping he’d pull a Ferris Bueller and break the 4th wall. 
While I am sure he was scared, and regretful for not tackling his bucket list, he was also worried about my mother’s remission from cancer and her progressive Alzheimer’s which she ended up having for twenty-six years … he was graceful and peaceful.  I admired that.  I still do to this day. 

My father was a Leo (fire) and Eastern he was Yang Wood.  Thus, my mother, my father, and I are all Yang. We all have Fire. My mother and I just happen to have water, too.  Accident?  NO.  It is WHY I was the chosen caboose child to take care of both of them.

Had I not taken care of both of them, YOU WOULD NOT BE READING THIS RIGHT NOW…I wouldn’t have created Linkronicity or become a life coach from the experiences I had from my journey to my destiny based from the time I was born to understand health, homeopathy, psychology, wellness/mind-body connection growth, healing and evolution.

Still with me? You get placed on your path to learn what you learn for reasons you DO NOT KNOW UNTIL YOU ARRIVE and say.... "OH... I get it now. It was for purpose."

My siblings and I only have water as our common thread (both of them YIN Water Eastern) and my sister, a Pisces, so double water here.  But no visible fire in Eastern/Western. They were not part of this cemetery journey.  However, it was not destined for them to be a part of this lesson either.  It was mine – my chosen and appointed responsibility, my emotional storm and collision which I was shown and for what I must take ownership. Their destiny was different. Let me explain.....

People who have FIRE in Eastern are represented by the Vermillion bird or PHOENIX… so if you are born in a year ending in 6 or 7 (regardless of what your Western sign is)… you probably have resurrected your life path, career, or have been in transition a few times and changed some navigational direction.  Chances are you are a leader in your own mission; whatever that is and you are taking your cumulative life journey into a purposeful direction to change lives.  That's WHY I know even though I am Cancerian Water, it was that Yang Fire Horse that made me become the Phoenix and WHY I was placed in the position here and NOT my siblings. I already knew my life was about resurrection, that's what Stacey actually means and I could have gone with just my name's meaning alone.  But this was further proof and validation of what I came here to do.

This is WHY even though my siblings and I have the same parents, my purpose, mission, journey, timing, is different and they were not the ones chosen to take care of my parents.  I was the one to resurrect (ironically my mother, too)– but not my siblings.

Does this make sense?  

My example is for YOUR PURPOSE – to show you there are no accidents for where you are, who you are, or how you are being asked to show up.  Linkronicity is in your life chain, no matter how you may have first rolled your eyes at the thought of my bringing up timing, birth, destiny, patterns, and yeah, even what you may think is wacky astrology. 

FOR YOU… your family configuration has its own Linkronicity.  Your parents, your siblings, grandparents, closest family based relatives have some intertwined matched element (Water, Fire, Earth, Air).  Your EMOTIONAL COLLISION is for your highest good so you understand WHAT your life purpose is FOR YOUR OWN CONVICTION.

Our life lessons emotionally are tied to our childhood home base.

Look at your life, your family, your emotional collision within yourself – your mind, your body, your soul, your spirit, your heart and your connection with yourself.

Examine your family dynamic.  Next, I am going to ask you to see how you are connected with the EARTH. 

THIS IS FOR YOUR HUMAN – for Balance, Stability, Foundation, Inner Zen, and Calmness. 

What elements are part of YOUR Linkronicity life chain determine whether you are the one to learn certain lessons or if your connection to your parents or siblings is an earthly role (grounding), an emotional (water) role, a resurrection/leadership (fire) role, or a balancing circulation role (air). 

If we add in all the combinations of WHO WE ARE, we see nothing in our life is an accident and we get to stretch ourselves in how we deal with our INTENSITY LINK as well as our EMOTIONAL COLLISION LINK.  Fire & Ice?  You bet!  Maybe you have a multi-level purpose if you examine all of the elements.

How we balance out our purpose and existence within our families sets the stage for how we perform within our life lessons, what we take forward in our personal, career and ‘purpose’ agenda being on this planet.

My point in telling you this is so you understand our connection to this planet.  
We are HUMAN LIFE.  However, THE PLANET Earth where we reside connects all forms of life (animals, plants, and insects).  Why do I say this?  Our SOULS CHOSE human vessels to BE ON EARTH RIGHT NOW.  We didn’t have to… we could have sat on the bench this go round and waited for another lifetime to be here again to finish up old business or tackle new business. 

Our humans and souls have communicative empathy.  This is why everyone pulled for any earthly event.  Nevertheless, it is also, why OUR EMOTIONS sometimes get in a funky dynamic or upheaval and we cannot understand our deeper-level “homework” we have to do anytime we are tested on Planet Earth.

Whatever is going both on Earth and in the Cosmos - everyone is asked to transform, step up, own who they are, how they want to show up, choose endurance, survival, compassion, empathy, become their best selves THROUGH EVERY MAJOR LIFE SHIFT TEST ON THE PLANET (Human and Soul) no one is immune to the transformational push.  

We are being asked right now to OWN OUR TRUTH AND CONVICTION IN OUR PSYCHE AND OUR EMOTIONS as we finish out our year of GROWTH AND TRANSFORMATION. 

I am not going to get into a whole astrology lesson here, but Western, here is the breakdown:

·         Water – Cancer, Scorpio Pisces
·         Fire – Leo, Sagittarius, Aries
·         Earth – Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo
·         Air – Gemini, Aquarius, Libra

Eastern for Water, Fire, Earth, Metal, Wood, YIN vs. YANG is here (and so are the animals):
Now if you happen to have a full chart with a mix of this stuff (water/fire/earth) between yourself alone and add in your family….this does not mean you go grab some chocolate and sit in a fetal position in a corner for a while.  Okay…I know you are human and feel like doing this sometimes, so scoot on over, will ya?  I’m a giver, I will share my chocolate.  ;) 

As I mentioned, I have Scorpio in my South Node and Neptune, Taurus in my North Node, Pisces in Chiron, Saturn, and Moon.  Organized Virgo in Uranus and Pluto… so I am actually poking a little fun at myself earth and water – plus that darn fire horse.  Luckily, I do have some air, too.

This is why EARTH, WEATHER, HUMANS, and our emotions are CONNECTED.
Part of our ‘home-base’ is designed for this water-fire and other earthly balance combo in order for us to understand our own emotions IN ANY SITUATION. 

THIS IS NOT AN ACCIDENT.  You can laugh at this all you want, but I will tell you that all of my coaching clients I have ever had have in their family dynamic both water and fire somewhere.  


Water = Emotions
Fire = How you rise

Earth is how you stay grounded.  Air is how you move within said space. 

Is your brain exploding yet?

Our own acceptance and understanding of this within each other and ourselves, also requires proper handling of INTENSITY as we walk through fire, based on our own configurations.  

We are born into it.  All of the elements are there for purpose.  Once we understand the elements, we understand our mood cycles within our core being.  

Our psyche and heart, human and soul settle in accordingly in this configuration with earthly happenings.  How we function psychologically (reaction), physically (in action) also is dependent on our INNER STRENGTH from self-awareness  so our soul and spirit can FLOW.

As I mentioned last blog, information is power.  Knowledge is power.  How we apply it can make all the difference between our struggle and our calm.

Add in EARTH events and we understand why we get out of sync and haywire….  When our ULTIMATE GOAL IS STABILITY.

While life may throw some turbulent times, navigating an emotional collision is part of a muscle group we must exercise.

***** I know, I know.... BIG HUG. This is uncomfortable *****

Need a cookie? ..

·        Humans vs. Souls have a navigational balancing issue.  Emotional collision like the one I mentioned in the last blog is about mind and heart.

·         Mind and heart emotional collisions are based on our own core grounding in balance and that connects to where the Soul wants to fly for freedom but also how grounded the Human is on Earth (which is WHY I brought up the elements).  We have to be clear and our declaration must start from pure intention.  Without pure intention, we have no navigational direction of clarity, which in turn clouds communication.... and that makes dealing with an emotional collision more confusing.

·        However understanding the elements gives us stability because these LIFE TOOLS provide an inner calm of providing a deeper conviction in who we are, based on our life lessons we are given from the time we are born throughout our life.

·         The elements affiliated with each of us and our own families is the foundation from which we pull our security, overcome insecurity, step into our conviction, faith and power based on the trust we have from knowing nothing is an accident. 

How you navigate your emotional collision now that you have your strength, ownership of intensity and power (from last blog) coupled with your connection to Mother Earth, the elements, your family, and emotions and purposeful connective Linkronicity (from this blog) – I am arming you with the tools for Inner Zen & Calmness you can take forward. 
In Fire & Ice Part Three, I will show you how to even more basics to use. 

For those of you wanting a life improvement and journey transformation, I take what you have seen so far several hundred feet deeper for emotional diving excavation.  Total mind-body archeology, customized throughout your personal family connection is what I do in private one-on-one coaching sessions  I will take you on an adventure to give you tools to use specific to YOUR LIFE. 

Meanwhile, I hope what tools I provide here in all of these blogs for the last two years have been helpful.  I am here to serve.  With that said, let us have an emotional collision of the retro kind merging the elements of EARTH, WIND & FIRE as we look at our wishes and dreams. 

I am here with you on this galaxy trip.  Thanks for going along for the ride.  Keep your seat belt on and your hands and arms inside the time machine…. Moreover, do not forget to share your chocolate. 


Tuesday, August 29, 2017


Greetings Intense Souls… this one is for you.  

You are not alone, I am right here with you.  *I SEE YOU*… and if you are reading this, perhaps you see me.

For as verbose as I am… they say a picture is worth 1000 words. 

While you know I will artistically honor the place that allows you to gaze at the above picture…you also know me well enough to know, (and so do your bloodshot eyes from reading my 30,000 words in August alone), I have more than 1000 words in me.

Thank you for your support, by the way.  I do not take it for granted; I am appreciative of our sharing this space of awareness, and enlightenment where I can help you understand all the LINKS in your life chain.

Today we are going to talk about your EXTREME LINKS.

Within your head and heart, sometimes there is UNITY.
Within your head and heart, sometimes there is CONTRAST like Fire & Ice.
Within your head and heart, sometimes there is this haze where you do not quite know if it is smoke from the fire, or if it is vapor from the ice. 

When you are spinning mentally, emotionally and trying to RESOLVE something unsettled within your SOUL vs. YOUR HUMAN… these images above articulate what is going on.

Do not despair… its quite normal if you have ever been called “intense” or perhaps apply this as a self-label identification.

Being intense is not a negative thing.  Please repeat that.  My hope for you is to erase the stigma of this being negative.  It is time for you to embrace it.  

I am going to continue to be vulnerable, raw and transparent with you again in order to help you understand just how ‘normal’ this is.

When I was about six years old, I was trying to adapt to a new school.  We had just moved and I was forced to leave all my friends behind at my old school an hour away.  

At the time, this move felt like the above pictures.  This ‘change’ was such an extreme one.  While I did eventually make new friends at my new school, a piece of me had wondered at the time what would have happened had I stayed at my other school.

As an adult now, I see it was for my highest good.  You keep hearing me tell you that nothing in our life is an accident --- NOTHING.  

What I have learned most from the most emotionally challenging times in my life is that ALL CHANGE feels like this depending on where you are between your head and heart at the time. 

From a life lesson 101 perspective as a child in a life-changing move; to the back-to-back deaths of most of my entire family becoming orphaned as an adult and thirty back-to-back deaths/funerals in my professional sphere…. Major loss and change is never easy. 


Read that line again, please.  Notice I highlighted it for you and put it in bold face. THIS is called transformation.  Now back to my context example to make a point.

I came home from school trying to explain to my mother at age six that I could not breathe.  She took me to the doctor who put me on some codeine cough syrup for a cough that did not require that.  Nevertheless, why was I coughing?  Why couldn’t I breathe? 

Fasten your seatbelt.  I literally couldn’t breathe in the space between my head and heart. 

What?!  Heck, yeah.  Where was Eastern spiritual medicine then? 

As an educated health and wellness adult – I see this as clear as day now. 

This breathing/cough issue was a ‘trigger response’ for the literal of what was going on inside my body.  I was manifesting in my body what my mouth could not articulate or communicate as a six year-old with a limited perspective of living life and a vocabulary not yet of the spiritual higher consciousness realm. 

My mother told me that I was “intense” and she “couldn’t understand me.”  Though this was not true. She just could not understand me at the time (relating only to the six year old human).

Now… this was HUGE.  My mother was an extremely INTENSE Scorpio.  I mean….  INTENSE with a capital “I”… and if SHE couldn’t understand me… geez, who could? 

We were like peas in a pod.  The Universe gave my intense water-sign mother lil’ ol’ ME… a Cancerian Fire Horse daughter with Scorpio in South Node AND in Neptune (for those of you who understand astrology).  I was the caboose child she didn’t really want to have, but the Universe obviously had purpose for that, too. 

I mean, COME ON…you want to talk compatibility on all cylinders?  There was not anything we could not talk about…Hours and hours…chatty, chatty, chatty.  Destiny wanted me to understand all of this connection, so that when she would eventually transition into Alzheimer’s nine years later when I was fifteen, that I could begin my educational journey/trek to be here RIGHT NOW writing this for YOU TO READ. 

What I did not understand at the time was that my HUMAN was just six.  

Laugh… because it’s funny.  My soul self was 100 (yeah, yeah, I know the soul has no age) or something in a child’s body. 

She was trying to deal with the HUMAN…..NOT THE SOUL.

Eureka!  Sigh.  If I had this wisdom back then… eh?  Again for my highest good… because that would freak people out. 

Therefore, I share this with you – because as you try to deal with your INTENSE LINKS, you have to understand this difference in order to illuminate YOUR POWER.  Knowledge itself is power, right?  

If you comprehend your EXTREME places between the head and heart and understand the Human vs. Soul, you are taking your communicative consciousness to a higher level of evolving into your own illumination.

What I mean in English-speak, (‘bout time, girl) is that you can’t step into owning your power (for real) until you can navigate these places where you process your emotions and your thoughts.

Have you ever felt like you were in battle with yourself?

At one time in your life did you ever feel as if you were the actual lyrics of the Alanis Morrisette song “Hand In My Pocket” when trying to understand what was going on with your own intensity of extremes?

"I've got one hand in my pocket
And the other one is hailing a taxicab."

THIS is similar to that head/heart – fire/ice – human-soul issue.
That superhighway between your head and your heart is complex, much like all the arteries and valves to your heart. 

IF YOUR HUMAN IS GOING THROUGH MASSIVE LIFE CHANGE or TRANSFORMATION – then UNDERSTANDING YOUR OWN HUMAN vs. YOUR SOUL’s place IS YOUR LINK OF POWER to avoid any sig-alerts on this superhighway. This is how you make sure you do not derail or detour your internal GPS. 

·         We humans like to fix things. 
·         We like to have resolution.
·         We like to have answers and a plan.
·         We like to organize by nature and have things in order.
·         We like solutions.  We like absolute finite things.
·         Sometimes humans like to fight change, familiarity and comfort zone.

·         Souls however like to fly freely and sometimes do not like being penned or contained.
·         Souls want freedom to fly with ease and the breeze of what it knows it needs and wants to do and loves new, different, and uncharted territory to discover.

·        Souls want to explore, gather, see the unique serendipity of timing and the bigger purpose and plan for how/why things are and find enchantment with being enlightened.

When “humans” place roadblocks in the path (other humans as well as ourselves), it is hard to understand if this is something the human needs to “fix” or if it is actually the Universal Divine saying...

“UM…  NO…  We have a bigger and better plan for you; stop trying to open the damn door, human.” 

Still with me? 

So if you feel like you are ‘stuck’ or if you are ‘frustrated’ because your human can’t get things exactly and as perfectly as your human wants… you have to know how to take the route your soul is flying at times to “cope” with the fire and ice of your own intensity.

Also, if you are having conflict or misunderstandings with other humans, you also have to ask yourself if the person you are talking with is in human or soul mode.  Then you have to check in with your ULTIMATE INTENSE SELF....and understand the place where you sit, too.  Your human (see list above) wants those things.  But your soul is trying to navigate by the things you see in the soul list above.

SO doesn't THAT answer your bigger question about yourself in how your own INTENSE SELF sometimes gets twisted up feeling misunderstood?

Um... yeah.  DING-DING-DING.... bells are going off now, eh?
Are you smiling yet?  Or are you still scratching your head?

If you are intuitive, sensitive and aware of your own intense self, that is half the battle. 
You know who you are; therefore, it is the simple tweak of the LINK that blocks your psyche.  

Remember... BEING INTENSE IS A GOOD THING.  You feel things deeply, you are passionate and you have radar all around you.  So you 'pick up' everything.  Your psyche and your soul are hungry and thirsty for knowledge.  Though for intense souls, this also means there is a massive amount sensitivity where the brain processes things one way and the heart goes 'ouch' when you think you are being misunderstood. 

However, if you are synchronized in the harmony and balance WITH the extreme, you have power to use it for your greatest good instead of against yourself spinning and spinning, losing traction between mind and heart.

This is where I ask you to look into your heart.  You hear me say that a lot, but that is because the human brain is like a roadblock buzz kill for the heart and soul at times. 
There is a time and a place where logic accelerates your life.  

There is another time when logic is truly messed up and can tell your human to do insane things that are not for your highest good, just because your human wishes to be “in control.”
This has to do with yin/yang energy, too.  Yes, YOU HAVE BOTH. 

HERE IS WHERE TRUST COMES INTO PLAY (the hardest lesson of all for all of us humans on Earth)…. 

We need to apply that word you hate…PATIENCE and let things shake out sometimes.
Personal power comes from the place of understanding cause and effect. 

Humans who like to ‘control’ will unknowingly change cause and effect by actually affecting the current plan that the soul has already agreed to in the place of LIFE PURPOSE, SOUL EVOLUTION, and MISSION.

THE CONFUSING PART?  When does the human need to be smart and take action vs. the soul’s la-dee-dah ‘whenever, we have all the time in the world’ non-chalant space of letting things flow?

AH HA…  YES, Stacey.  YES...  please tell me, you say.

Well, let us start with communication.  If your human and your soul actually WANT the same things, then you need to communicate that and face your truth and YES, this is where you NEED to consult with your head/heart and human/soul to create a plan to manifest.
Without it, you are lost.

But let us get back to the heart of the matter... your heart, if it is pure (key here) then it has more powerful ability than your mind. 

What? Yes. That is truly saying something because we know how powerful the human brain is. Though let's not forget both the brain and the heart are your human vessel's DUAL ENGINE. It's just sometimes they want to drive your car (vessel) to different destinations.
But for INTENSE people?  The heart will resonate deeply, the mind has to shut up for a bit so that the heart can speak to the mind and tell it to remove fear, remove obstacles and let the heart lead even if the mind thinks it is scary.

This is why communication is important.  Then…. If what you want requires the involvement of other humans/souls to assist you somehow (depending on whatever it is you want) – then you have to communicate CLEARLY with them as well.  Clear communication is everything.

If it is impossible to articulate/communicate (not due to your lack of ability, but rather you can’t speak about something yet due to circumstances beyond your control which involve say, logistics or concrete information)… then DID YOU KNOW YOU CAN DO THIS IN YOUR HIGHER CONSCIOUSNESS?  

Step into your higher self and ‘send’ a message or show up in a dream-state to MOVE energy into the direction you need it to go.  YES, THAT IS POSSIBLE.

Again, INTENSITY is a positive thing…but if you have fought yourself in the oil/water configuration, what you are being asked to do now is step into your deeper understanding of how your intensity can become your power when you TELL YOUR HUMAN THINGS ARE FINE and that THE SOUL HAS THIS.

We cannot lose faith, lose sight, or lose trust in the fact that there is a bigger plan for us that is actually BIGGER THAN US.  This ‘’highest good’ thing is perhaps the best thing that can happen to you and for  you, however, our humans usually don’t have the patience to process or understand it (or can’t be bothered) to.  That is when the HUMAN gets depleted, sad, frustrated, or unruly.  This is even when the human tries to transfer despair to the soul and get emotionally or mentally overwhelmed.

I am here to tell you that everything is going to be okay.  Yeah, this is coming from ME… an intense soul like you whose human likes order most of the time. I just tell that girl to chill and get out of her own way and when I let my dreams drive my soul, what happens is I get 'mirrors' ... my intuitive sense picks up on those mirrors - visually, via action, all that is said and yes... UNSAID.  I see effort, I see connection and I feel the truth of what my higher self knows, once the human girl steps aside to trust and say YES.

Life is short. Your power comes from YOU. No one can hand it to you and if they do, you can't own it the same way as you would if you realized your own, step into it, claim it and embrace all parts of who you are.  It is in this, you can see another soul that sees your authenticity to validate/reinforce that your INTENSITY is there purposefully for you to own equally as your own truth.

TRUST IN DESTINY.  Is that hard?  Then trust what your heart knows. Trust what your soul knows.  If your head is in the same space/page, then you are not in conflict. If you have questions, ask... and you'll get answers.  Your GUT will tell you right away.

What I have (and continue) to learn is that every new situation really is not all that new.  To the human it appears new, but to the soul, it’s old hat.  We just have to blend that fire and ice together to see the beauty of the present moment as we walk through it. 

That beauty comes to you with even more clarity and appreciation when you see that what appears to be an impossible combination can become inner illuminated strength and artistry within your being, IF your human allows it… and if your soul agrees to enlighten the human heart and mind inside of you to accept it.

Accept your intensity ….not just for all its beauty but even for the times when it appears to be ugly to you because you do not know how to deal with it.  It is normal, it is okay.  Now that I have shown you how to navigate it, you can own your power with it. 

Once you sit in this space, that cough will go away and you can BREATHE, as you never have before. 

Still have trouble accepting your own intensity?  You know I've got a video and 1000 more words for that.