It's no secret that sometimes when the world is not a kind place, for many, it can chip away at their self-worth, their self-esteem and happiness.
First off, we need to stop the bullying. That's just a fact. But why do bullies, bully? They have no self-worth, therefore they need to rip others down in order to feel good about themselves rather than be a pillar of support.
So why not just be a pillar of support?
Those who bully don't know how because they've never been supported and their world is filled with negativity and this is why they choose to clutter yours with it, too.
It doesn't matter if the bully is a stranger or if the bully is in your own family ....we need to examine how the cycles in families occur and how people's self-worth and happiness are affected unless the cycles are broken.
One can justify "they don't know any better" and they had a "rough childhood where they were not shown love and kindness" --- yes, this may be true.
But I would like to gently ask you to.......NOW turn your attention to a rescue dog or cat at an animal shelter.
You know some of these animals have been abused and had horrific things happen to them.
Yet, there have been many documented cases where their behavior can transform into unconditional love, rebirth/evolution in new behavior and moving forward from their default abused position.
How is it possible that THEY are able to show love, give love, and BE LOVE even though they have had the same things happen to them (or worse) than a human? How are they able to still love and be kind and loving?
Interesting thought, isn't it?
Thus justification and excuses don't hold up for the human any longer. Pointing fingers of blame at your parents and living your whole life that way is not healthy.
WHY? You become a victim and you allow your power to be given away.
Are you allowed to be human and feel your feelings? Yes, absolutely.
Are you allowed to experience pain and heal? YES.
But do you NEED to make the rest of your life a living hell by your own hand if you choose not to heal, and give permission to someone else to prevent you from living the rest of your life and making it the best you can?
That's up to you. You have the power to take back your life.
You have the power to change and transform your life.
You have the power to turn hurt, anger and disappointment into something more beautiful --- IF YOU CHOOSE.
Each human is responsible for their own transformation and change into stopping the cycle so that the cycle is not passed down another generation. It is here where people who had it 'bad' can REMOVE THIS LINK from being dwelled upon and start making changes to pro-actively seek a happier, healthier, better life through the process of reclaiming self-worth.
YOU are not the events that happened to you.
Yes, they are part of your journey. Hopefully, you are starting to sift through your own LIFE LINKS to decide what you don't want linked to you anymore and what you do. CHANGE is possible.
Read that again, please.
Negative links do not need to be part of your destiny. This is where Linkronicity can help you switch links in your link-line of life. You can always remove links that do not jive with who you are or who you want to become. You can always add a new link to make your journey happier, healthier and better.
WATCH HOW TO GET YOUR SELF-WORTH IN TACT .....You do not need to validate your existence by other people's nods:
Still with me?
Is it possible for humans to evolve? YES... It is. It is a choice. THIS IS A NEW LINK you can add to your life. It is up to you to do it. However it needs to start with the human in wanting to make that choice. You have heard hundreds of stories in the news where people have turned their life around.
This is part of the human spirit and free will.
Getting the right help and having a willingness to change is part of the transformational process. It isn't easy to rise from the ashes and overcome trauma or a life that has not been easy, but if we can all work on our own human souls and help each other heal, this world can be one heck of a better place if it starts from home base.
Why not just spread peace and love? YES, we can do that. Let's go for it.
We MUST do that - it is imperative to do that in order to help each person heal one at a time. As Ellen Degeneres says at the end of each of her shows, "Be kind to one another," - it's a good message to spread and a good thing to practice. The more kindness, the more love, the more support and positive energy, we all can make the world a better place.
But first....it has to begin with each of us. In order for this to happen, we all must get out of the mode of EGO. Does that sound like a contradiction? Ego vs. Self-worth? Hang tight - you'll have the answer to this shortly.
Take a deep breath and ask yourself if you can go an entire week of only spreading kindness, joy and love.... can you do it? Can you go a week without a single negative word or thought, reaction or action? How much discipline does it take within your being to do so? Can you actually take on the challenge to allow one week to be all about everyone else and not about yourself and your ego? If you can do this - then you know what is possible and that change is possible. If everyone can do this, the power of creating change is within everyone's grasp.
LINKING to your self-worth is easier for some than others - particularly when lots of negativity is abundant everyday. But just as negativity is abundant - so can positivity and positive energy if we choose to mirror it back.
This painting is what I was inspired to paint one day as an affirmation. The inspiration came after getting an earful from a friend who decided to complain for several hours about how others were affecting her life.
My question to her was "Why do you let them?"
She looked at me blankly and didn't have an answer. But she was so much in her 'ego' that she was too blind to SEE HOW that was possible..
This is when I realized that everyone has their own homework and footwork to do - ALL IN THEIR OWN TIME. Sometimes not everyone is ready. It's like waiting for a flower to open or that hard avocado you pick up that's not quite guacamole-ready to use.
We can help as much as we can, but someone must be in the position to RECEIVE. Receiving guidance, a road map of life of sorts requires self-worth to accept it!
We cannot save everyone, but we are responsible for saving ourselves. While we are on this journey, it's also a good idea and kind to offer a hand up to discovering what is possible with a little encouragement and support. Do what you can.
However, for those of you who try and try - it is important to understand that no one can find happiness or self-worth in any amount of advice given unless they are in that place to SEE IT, HEAR IT, RECEIVE IT and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Everyone must find it for themselves within and be open to removing LINKS of old behavioral patterns of conditioning and add new LINKS of gratitude, joy and self-esteem.
I made some tea and much like the 'light' you get from opening a fortune cookie with a message, the Yogi tea I had pulled out of the box had this timely little message at the end of the string. It inspired the painting - I took it as a sign it was meant to be that this needed to be a message which surrounded my daily life. I needed to spread this message to others to remind them of their worth.
This is the first thing I look at when I wake up and the last thing I look at when I go to sleep. Now I share it with YOU so you can take in this message and apply it to be reminded of your worth.
If you are feeling 'invisible' ... you have to take stock that someone out there does connect with you, comprehend you and knows that some days are a bit more challenging than others. Some days you may face a lot of rejection through your work or your craft or in some other way in communications with people.
But no matter how much friends, family, partners, pets or even your job can lift you up - it is NOT THEIR JOB TO DO SO.
What? Yes - happiness is your responsibility... and YES, IT IS AN INSIDE JOB!
Happiness comes from within and is born from self-worth. THIS IS A VITAL LINK EACH SOUL NEEDS to know the meaning of both.
Have you ever heard that the saddest and loneliest souls are the ones who appear to 'have it all?'
Well, happiness and self-worth is not something anyone can supply to you directly and no amount of money can buy - it has to be organically born from within you or resurrected from within you to reclaim for yourself and declare in self-confidence WITHOUT EGO.
How does one have self-worth without ego? Ego has to be eliminated completely. "Pride" and "ego" stand in the way of authentic self-worth and pure happiness. How is this possible? It is possible because pride and ego are part of ATTACHMENT. If you are attached to outcome and attached to results and your pride and ego are wrapped up in it, when you-know-what hits the fan, your self-worth plummets.
Have you ever heard of unconditional love? Many people say they believe in it, but if you have ego and you have pride, then there is no such thing in your internal world. Love has conditions and has three times as many IF love comes with ego and pride, because someone always has to 'be right.'
Clinical psychologists have asked the question, "Would you rather be right? Or would you rather be loved?"
Depending on which side of the fence you stand you could either have a love-relationship with these questions or a hate relationship with these questions.
But let's get some clarity and perspective on the matter - Being LOVED is about simply BEING LOVE.... and when ego is removed, judgment is removed. Love is love and it is what it is. Ego is not involved and neither is pride. Just love.
SO -- if you have self-love (self-esteem, confidence, worked on your insecurities), and your self-love is pure without judging yourself based on how others judge you - you have self-worth. In other words what others think of you does not affect you because their opinions don't have any value in what you think of yourself - there is detachment to the outcome of their thoughts because you have arrived at a whole place to be yourself.
If you are in the sales field or if you are a creative Indie type and you have developed self-worth, daily or hourly rejection doesn't deflate your passion because you have a self-worth shield in tact and you can live your life happily without the rejection affecting you negatively or impacting your ability to get up the next day and plow the fields again.
In conclusion, self-worth and happiness links in your life take some time to work on, but it is possible to have both and in vast abundance because they already reside and live inside of you.... it is just up to you to reignite them and remove the links of negativity which stand in the way of letting those self-worth and happiness links shine.
YOU ARE WORTH HAVING HAPPINESS. Repeat this to yourself... and start to BELIEVE IT!