Friday, January 18, 2019


“Surprise!”  This is a word that some people love. This is a word some that people hate.

Which one are you?  Do you love surprises?  Or do you hate surprises?

When you hear that word, “surprise” check yourself… because you’re either elated or cringing. Depending on what you are FEELING, reveals how you attach yourself to destiny.

Yes, that’s right. Confused?  Let me explain.

So...let’s say you’re driving along and whammo – “surprise,” lights show up on your dashboard indicating that something is wrong with your car.  You didn’t expect this to happen, not only because you are good about car maintenance, but because you just took your car in for service. 

Are you feeling concern, panic, worry… or perhaps an “Argh, why now?” 

If you are, then it means you are human. In this human maintenance garage, your diagnostic is that what you are feeling is natural.   Breathe.

But let us take your human out of this for just a minute… 

Come on, fly with me – let’s rise above this situation because if something is wrong with your car, you’ll know soon.  

If you are panicking about having money for this unexpected expense right now, don’t start living in the future yet until you know what caused the lights to come on, because maybe it won’t be as expensive as you think.  

If your car delay is making you late for something right now, then maybe this is destiny … you are not supposed to arrive for some unforeseen thing is happening that you don’t need to be entangled with, like traffic or something else chaotic, and by having this delay something could be for your highest good by your current situation. 

Now, how do you feel…. A tad calmer? 

If we take ourselves out of the immediate human knee-jerk reaction, and give ourselves a moment to breathe, we can handle “surprises” that throw a wrench into our daily plan.  This relieves stress and in turn, calms your heart rate, and in turn, helps you not put your body in fight or flight mode that will weaken your immune system and make you sick. 

Suddenly the ‘not-so-pleasant-surprise’ turns into something manageable. 

If the ‘surprise haters’ practice this, they will soon change and tweak that LINK inside to being able to deal with things better, improve their health, stress and blood pressure levels.

So… “surprise” – you can turn this into something healthier for yourself on the communications front, right? 

Okay… so how does this tie-in to LINKING TO YOUR SURPRISE DESTINY REVEAL? 

It makes you less anxious about the unknown.  In turn, this can help you combat fears or worse, manifesting something by your own negative projection with worry making it real.

If you live your life full of anxiety, worry and hating surprises, you prevent yourself from being surprised with joy or the unexpected good thing, because you are blocking energy by only focusing on the negative part of what a surprise can be.

Whether or not you have to deal with your car right now is not the point here. 

Let’s say that it turns out the lights came on your dashboard as your wake up call. 

What is the wake up call telling you?  Maybe you need to switch mechanics and by finding this out now, you could save yourself bigger problems in the future.  

Or maybe these past months you’ve had a dilemma finding a new _______(veterinarian, accountant, lawyer, plumber, etc.) and that person is also in the lobby waiting for their car and turns out works only three blocks away.  You might have never solved your ‘other dilemma’ today had you not been pulled over to deal with this situation.  In this instance a ‘surprise’ can lead to another ‘surprise’ that you did not expect. Suddenly, the surprise you hated, lead you to a surprise that helped you move your situation of being stuck into forward drive. 

How do you feel about surprises now?  Is your perspective changed? 

Now, let us take this beyond the human car situation into your life’s destiny. 

I talk a lot about divine timing in the soul context. 

But I am aware that it is you – the human who needs the reassurance that there is an order amid the chaos, right?

So what does all of the above have to do with your human?  
What does this means in terms of linking to your surprise destiny reveal?

While the human wants what it wants when it wants it, it is the soul that has higher consciousness, better wisdom, greater insight for the human.

You have it, did you know this?  That’s right … it is within you.

Take a deep breath and meditate to see your higher self and the wisdom you possess.  

You may or may not see what you need to see first, second or even third try. Other times you may see it immediately.  What you see or do not see has much to do with what you are supposed to see to deal with what you have to deal with IN THE PRESENT.

What did we learn from Marty McFly in “Back to the Future?” 

We saw how you can alter your destiny and future too much by knowing too much about what happens taking things for granted that are happening in the present.

What you need to do is to calm your human NOW. Don’t get in your own way trying to manipulate something that isn’t being revealed at the moment.  Deal with what IS being revealed at the moment.

What is happening NOW?  What are you being allowed to see now?  Are you being asked to take action or are you asked to be patient and for now sit tight to be slightly passive until other things align like a green light so that you can go?  

It is in this answer your ‘surprise’ awaits.  

You could be surprised with either answer.  If you are asked to take action, you might be surprised by what happens when you do.  If you are asked to be patient and passive right now, it might be like waiting for a caterpillar to grow wings to emerge from the cocoon to fly or for a flower to bloom.

You get the point.  So your surprise destiny reveal is LINKED to how you are being asked to pay attention.  

If your “inner dash light” comes on - it is time for your human to wake up to do what you need to do. If you are driving along just fine right now, then it wouldn’t hurt to check in with yourself with where you are right now so you can keep on the road you’re going.
The beauty of all of this is we have the power of free will to change course from a negative situation and we have the wisdom to become aware to rising to the positive energy that awaits. 

It all resides within how we process our “surprises” – for it is here we just may be surprised with what these surprises bring!



Monday, January 14, 2019


My late grandmother taught me how to crochet. At the time she was teaching me the chain stitch, I didn’t realize that the chain stitch was a series of LINKS I would learn as a 'method'  that would become my own Linkronicity™.
Was this some psychic premonition?  Was it destiny?  Was it mapped out this way that I couldn’t yet fathom or imagine unless I continued to crochet? 

How do you access your inner peace, joy and use this power to create daily fulfillment? 

Do you realize that your own life's cliche's if dissected, could give you deeper insight
to your own obstacles?  

Let me pull on this yarn a bit so you can see what I am talking about.

I never mastered this art of crocheting like my grandmother’s knack for doing it in her sleep.

However it was in realizing that nothing is an accident and .... yes, "Everything happens for a reason" -  and as simple as it may sound, that nothing that happens in your life is an accident, either.  So let's use me as this guinea pig so you can see your own life truths. 

Crocheting has not ever been my thing. 

Yet, my entire life, I have lived what is best described as one who crochets clichés… of life, starting with the fact I have kept my “Nose to the grindstone,” and I “Leave no stone unturned,” when it comes to working through the pathways of make sure life is “Lived to the fullest.” 

Is this “Right as rain?” 

I don’t know, but living this way has been “More than I bargained for,” in a GOOD WAY!

Now let me ask YOU - what did you learn as a skill early on in your childhood that you use today in a different context, but is somehow related to what you learned as a child? 

How has it impacted your life?  What do you do today 'in method' as you go about your way of doing what comes naturally to you?

What my grandmother taught me through crocheting was that if I lived my own crocheting of cliche's, I could see my own destiny revealed in the finished creation.  Not just as a life coach, a publicist, a journalist, an author, but that every stitch with every experience... the only difference is, I have taken the context further.  As she stitched with wild freedom, unsure of what she was making at the time, I've taken on my journey the same way. 

Many have said living this way is like “Barking up the wrong tree” when you explore life taking things on like a “Bat out of hell…” but it is the only way to “Go bananas” in this crazy thing we call life.

Perhaps it is because I see that one’s “Moment of truth” is revealed when you finally get to the place of understanding there is “More here than meets the eye” “Sooner or later” and your realizations in self-actualization “Takes you by storm.” 

This is life’s beauty and it is here we begin to LINK all of our creativity, imagination and abilities to go beyond what we think is possible during the most challenging times. 

“A little bird told me” once that one does not always fly to soar or perch to see, for insight can come from many sources … including your higher self. 

The big question is, will you hear the message “Loud and clear” or will you think that is just too “Off the wall” to consider?

Your higher self has more wisdom, “Believe it or not.”  So therefore, the bigger question is  - Do you believe?  It’s not “Fools gold” nor a “Fly by night” concept.

All of this inner wisdom you possess already helps you with your inner peace to be “Free and easy,” to “get a leg up on” life.   

What do you seek?  Do you want to live more peacefully? 

Peace is something we have and need to cultivate to evolve and become in walking truth as it begins with all of us before we can authentically manifest it outwardly into the world.

Your work ethic and character helps you “Get your act together” to live from a place of who you truly are to become peaceful to activate peace and whatever else you want to accomplish to “Hold your own.”  

What do you dream of?  

How will you go “Out on a limb” to explore what you dare to dream? 

What are you grateful for? 

How will you “Pave the way” for your own back journey trek of having “Run the 
gauntlet/gamut” to produce something worth appreciating today?  

Where will you cultivate your gratitude to sustain that truth or peace you seek and “Tickle your fancy” with self-motivation to “Walk on air” in your daily life? 

People laugh at me when I say it’s “Child’s Play.” 

However, when I say, “No seriously, you have to get in touch with your carefree inner child to find your joy” …. I receive a “Mixed bag’ of responses. 

Sometimes adults cannot comprehend how to see joy, peace, gratitude and dreams are possible internally.

It seems to be that adults have put this “On the back burner” of their mind, as something they can only achieve WHEN something else happens, catering only to what is attainable in the external. 

I will argue, this is NOT “A whole new ball of wax” (or yarn) to crochet for that matter, but something that is already there.

You were born. You were a baby. You became a child. You lived through childhood, (heck – even survived it, did you not?) and have arrived here where you are right now.

There is no ‘course’ to go through to understand it – you were a child before. 

When you were a child, wasn't it easier for you to find peace, joy, gratitude and dare to dream?   Sure it was.  You didn't censor your ability to have these things, nor did you 'seek them out externally' because you had it WITHIN and it was within your grasp like a crochet hook to stitch together whatever playtime experience you ever wanted, on command - right there when you wanted to play! 

All you have to do is rediscover this within yourself and not let your adult get in the way of happiness you can have right now. 

You may think that this is NOT “Easy as pie” – but it is only because you are stuck as your adult self saying this statement.  Remember, to a toddler child, making a pie is not “Easy as pie” – so “Try that on for size.”  Hehe

Don’t discount all of the hard stuff you have endured as an adult. You’ve handled things at the “Eleventh hour.”  You have “Burned the candle at both ends.”  As an adult there have been times where you have had to “Pay through the nose,” or “Go the extra mile” or “Live and learn.” 

See?  You’ve “Risen to the challenge” many times.  So trying to simplify your way of finding peace and joy doesn’t look so daunting now, does it?  

So why do you fight self care so much?   
Why do you get stressed out?  

Why do you “Bite off more than you can chew” and put yourself in a depleted position “Time and time again?” 

It’s time “To see the light.”  

“Get the lead out of your feet” and begin the process to “Make hay while the sun shines” with your own personal progress in transforming the quality of each day.  

It is here you will begin seeing just how your “Glass is half full” or dare I suggest, your “Glass runneth over” with blessings right in front of you. 

“Go whole hog” or “Go like the wind” – by all means, get going. 

You have room to have “High hopes” for having the kind of life you wish for, and it is NOT “Wishful thinking” – but rather your chance to have “The time of your life” “In the groove” “On cloud nine!” 

You’re worth every stitch! 


Monday, January 7, 2019


Courage is a gift we all possess within.  However, if you have not yet embraced it, HESITATION can rear its ugly head in your pathway of addressing your goals, New Year's resolutions and whatever it is you are putting on the back burner of your life to clear away to live a healthier, happier life.  There is a LINK between HESITATION and COURAGE as it is all rooted in FEAR. 

First let’s look at the Definition of Courage: mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty.   

Are you clear on how your lack of belief in your own strength sometimes creates your own hesitation? 

The question came to me from a reader who asked me how to avoid hesitation.

The answer is really all about embracing your own strength. Of course this comes down to confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, acknowledgment of your authentic self and the links continue onward to whatever work you have yet to address WITHIN.

Hesitation and Courage as it relates to Fear is different than the red-flags of life in hesitation where the gut has you stop in your tracks to question something with logic or a greater understanding.  Hesitation connected to courage can paralyze your mind in taking action of what your higher self knows is GOOD FOR YOU to do so you can move forward.

However, very few people value the LINK OF COURAGE within themselves, while they have an abundance of admiration for the courage in others.
On the surface, this appears baffling to fathom in the spiritual world, when it is said that you cannot have the capacity to think or feel anything outside of yourself, if you do not first possess it yourself for it to originate. 

So let’s break this down in digestible bits:

It may be even more confusing if you ask yourself how you have the ability to admire someone’s courage, yet as much as you admire it, that their courage doesn’t inspire you enough to embrace your own.

You are probably sitting there asking yourself why you haven’t yet thought about that, so please go ahead and think about that for a minute … I’ll wait as you process this.

Now…let's get to work!

  • Who were your courage inspiration heroes as a kid?  Were they your parents, professors, an older sibling, an athlete or …? 

  • Where do you push yourself to be brave and where do you pull it from when you need it?

  • Do you recognize your ability where you have applied it more than a few times in your life? 

  • What is your ‘measurement’ for courage and what distance would you go to test your own? 

As we begin the process of what this means, I ask you these questions so that you can begin looking at what courage means to you.

  • What ONE THING could you do today that would begin to chip away at your lack of courage?

  • What difficult conversations have you avoided?

  • What things have you procrastinated doing?

Maybe yours task is simple like mustering up the courage to walk over to your neighbor’s house to tell them to turn down the music or to not park blocking your driveway; or confront your boss or professor about some unfairness – these are areas to consider. If your courage is needed for something bigger – say you are afraid of a medical diagnosis and you’ve procrastinated going to the doctor; or you are afraid to tell your parents you would rather live your dream instead of theirs… or end a relationship that is unhealthy… 

Perhaps you don’t have courage to ask for help if you need it or you lack courage in pursuing some truth because you are afraid you are wrong – regardless of what it is you need courage for it is time to remember that by not addressing something, you’re creating your own struggle.

There is no need to allow your struggle, worry, anxiety, or limitations to persist if you dare to embrace the inner link of courage within you.  This is the purpose of putting the kibosh on fear as your obstacle. 

Maybe you want the courage to speak your truth but are afraid others will repel or shun you if you do. 

For others it could be removing procrastination from their life tackling something they have put off for years to clean up, or get through, or change.

Whatever that one thing is that you can do as your first step, or a small step, is your gateway to entering the arena of LINKING TO YOUR INNER COURAGE.

What this breaks down to is that if you are lacking courage, you haven’t addressed the idea (or accepted it) that the idea if FEAR IS NOT REAL.  It is your perception of fear that lurks overshadowing your own ability to have courage.

So as New Year refresher, let’s visit the idea that fear is not real:

Okay, so now that we understand fear from this foundational level, how do you see having courage now? 

Does it seem POSSIBLE?  


Why not try tackling your own sense of the courage you believe you lack, in the same baby-step way you address your fear?   Is THAT possible? 

Sure it is!  

Does it sound daunting? Start with writing a list. 

Look at it and see it, face it, digest it, use it as a goal-setting method for yourself this year.  Perhaps even tackle it like a goal or intention.  One by one, you can build your courage gradually with each accomplishment you set out to do for yourself.

What happens from here is you can conquer your own false perception you once believed you didn’t have the courage to do. 

When you begin from this place of removing fear and embracing your inner courage links, you can then make all of your New Year’s resolutions SUCCESSFUL rather than another list of failed goals, ideas or plans you keep carrying over to the next year.

This also helps you move through your own perceptions about change in a new way, breaking yourself free from the imprisonment of old habits you’ve created as your shackles putting you into a false sense of security in your comfort zone. 

For everything else, if you need assistance with navigation through this courage course, I’m here.
Take a look at what courage you need to do what it is you tell yourself that you can’t.  Realize once you declare that you can, you open up the realm of possibility for it to be actualized to happen.

The question is… do you have the courage to begin?  You do not need to go ‘searching’ for courage, it already exists within you, all you have to do is unlock it because you have the key.