Monday, December 14, 2015


Have you ever met an older person who has unhealthy eating habits, and doesn’t exercise and perhaps indulges in bad things like less than eight hours of sleep or worse, but they have not had the cold or flu in two decades?  

You may think it is unfair and completely unfathomable to be as healthy as they are, when you may do all the right things including eating clean, exercising daily and you drink plenty of water and have even cut out all your vices. 

“How is this possible?” you ask yourself over again as you recall George Burns living to the ripe old age of 100 years when he drank martinis and smoked cigars and he only died of natural causes and no long term illnesses. 

The answer is simple – wellness through inner peace. Ask any person who is completely healthy what their daily routine is, and you will find a common denominator…they don’t get too worked up about anything that doesn’t matter because worrying doesn’t solve problems and they make time to be happy and find peace and joy with appreciation of calmness in the moment. 

Wellness.  Everybody wants to be in total balance – mind, body, soul and spirit.  However, life tends to get a bit hectic and many become imbalanced day-to-day through crazy and hectic schedules, where time and mismanagement of self-care occur.

Inner Peace.  Everybody wants it and wants to enter each New Year with it inside their minds and hearts.  However,  just like the New Year’s resolutions to eat better, sleep and exercise more – internal peace is somehow gets kicked to the curb the moment stress flares up.

Are wellness and inner peace connected?  

Is it possible to gain complete tranquility and calm every single day?

Is there a way to attain optimum health physically when you have inner peace emotionally and mentally?  


But what does that mean exactly?

Without internal peace, our cell system rapidly goes into fight or flight mode and our defenses become weakened.

How do you get peace?  You must choose CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE to LINK to it within.
Now you may think that this seems far-fetched, however it is truly possible to do in moments.  This is where most people miss the mark because somehow, wellness and inner-peace seem like a giant goal to achieve and no one has a four-hour window to become centered.

Here’s the secret… think of achieving wellness through the ‘slow-time-released-vitamin’ of inner-peace and you can truly BE WELL in life’s most crazy and hectic moments.

When your body’s temperature and blood pressure become escalated in the middle of traffic, you are actually ‘allowing’ your body to feel stress.  When you feel stress, you are weakening your being and your body’s health defenses by forcing it to go through something that isn’t good for you.  So if you ‘STOP’ the process and calm your mind, take a deep breath and relax IN THAT MOMENT, you’re telling your body to be more peaceful. 

In essence what you are achieving at this moment is you are telling your body to not only be peaceful, but you are creating a preventative immunity breakdown through stress.

LINKING to this ‘GO-TO’ practice of creating peace in every moment you feel stress, you are actually creating a wellness protector.   

Rediscover a ‘GO-TO’ moment like this every single day each time you feel panicked, anxious, nervous, angry, negative, or defeated.

However, you don’t have to only wait to go to this “GO-TO” moment.  You can also carve out “energy booster” moments while you are already feeling good.  Consider this to be somewhat like a bonus wheatgrass shot for your mind, heart,and soul.

Refuel, regroup, recover, and refortify your sense of calm consciously by making the effort to plan a space in each day for it, like an appointment. 

It starts inside of you and your being.  It all begins with YOU. 

LINK to the place where you can feel peace at will and your body will respond favorably by keeping your immunity in check. 

We have enough external stress factors in daily life and there is much unrest happening with the world and the planet as a whole.  We must each do our part and take responsibility for keeping the peace vibration alive within ourselves, so we can have it resonate across the globe.  If we continue to ignore it within, we cannot extend it fully from our being. 

Imagine if each person in our world extended peace from their being because they committed to internal peace to continue to give peace and share it.  It would be awesome, right?  

Maintain your focus on your health.  Health does not only mean physical health.  Health is also an emotional, mental, and overall state of being.  Just like the vitamin supplements you take every single day for your physical health, you need a daily dose of peace priming within your state of mind in order to maintain your health.

Being off-balance happens to everyone.  People get busy.  Schedules get crammed with a long list of ‘to do’ items that seem endless and overwhelming.

You may laugh at the idea of the ‘domino effect’ but the truth is the domino effect is REAL and you are LINKED TO ALL OF IT – it is a chain that exists in your healthy pathway to well-being and inner peace.

Start with your environment.  Your personal space at home is a reflection of what is going on inside your body.  Did you know that?  If you have not been taking care of yourself, chances are you have not been taking care of your own environment either. 

If your personal space is cluttered, filled with dust and dirt and your carpet is matted with all the debris you bring in with your shoes from the day, you are actually creating an ‘UNHEALTHY’ space inside your home.  You breathe in this dirt every moment.  You may think you have allergies, but you may be suffering from a reaction physically to your actual environment.  When this happens, your physical wellness is being compromised.  

How can you possibly have peace internally if your only sanctuary away from the world is filthy and your body continues to live in a toxic environment of your own creation?   

It is pretty challenging to achieve optimum balance when you have mixed feelings internally and externally, creating further ‘chaos’ within instead of peace. 

Mental state-of-mind is also affected by your physical environment, creating less-focus, decreasing productivity, creative flow, and well-being.

CHANGE YOUR LINK by CHANGING YOUR ENVIRONMENT.  CLEAN IT UP and you will be creating your own pathway to mental and physical clearing in this space to provide and allow peace to actually have a place around you at home.

The same is said for your office space and where you work.  Keep your work station clean and free of debris, you will work flow will smooth out and your internal ‘frazzledness’ will start to dissipate so you can find peaceful moments with the work you are doing.

Making positive steps to take care of the planet we live on, even by doing one small thing can make a difference if everyone starts to do it.  Saving resources like water, electricity, reducing your carbon footprint – every little thing adds up to big changes.   

When you feel GOOD about the choices you are making, you start to accept within yourself that you are making changes in your environment, and then start to FEEL the change within your structure and being.  Your vessel starts to take on the energetic shift of that impact you have made in a positive direction. 

While this may seem far stretched to you – TRY IT and see how you feel. 

Notice the change within you and experience how different you feel about yourself and how much more peaceful you actually feel when you start to pay attention to your own support structure for yourself. 

Exercising kindness, compassion and thoughtfulness also play a big role in your ‘well-being.’  Doing something good does makes you feel good.  

Start by being authentic and real from the kindness place in your heart you were already born with. Intention is the most important because if the intention is not pure, it will be a toxic boomerang back at your well-being and be counterproductive if your own actions are not truthful.

This is the number one place where people are hung up and stuck.  Most think by being thoughtful, it somehow invites good karma or they will get something in return for their actions.

DELETE the agenda. Instead, change the LINK to be doing the kind act just because and because it is the right thing to do, NOT because you EXPECT something in return or you are secretly hoping for some sort of result.  Do not do it to be liked or popular.  Do not do it for selfish reasons and you’ll soon see that inside of your heart the vibration will invade your center within for a peaceful calmness and pure sense of being as you were born to do naturally. 

When you go against your own truth, your cell system will start to make changes with your mental and emotional state, which manifest physically.  It does not align with who you truly are.  This is another reason your immunity breaks down because you are fighting against your own natural current to do the right thing your mind and heart know is the better choice.

You were born with purity and innocence.  This still exists inside of you and who you are and it is there for you to tap into. Once you remove the human need to fill a void when you tap into the purity, you then have wholeness with genuine intention. 

When you do things for the greater good, and with the right intention vibration, you feel good; you have more self-acceptance about your own external actions.  In turn, internally you start to feel that resonate within as well.

POSITIVE LINKS = POSITIVE CHANGE.  Positive change brings inner peace. 

The actions you take each day can start simply with your own smile and giving that energy as you greet the day and go about it.  

Daily affirmations are simple and free to do.  You do not need any special exercise equipment or gadgets.  You do not have to cook or prepare or even buy anything.  A simple affirmation can change and transform your being.  Here is an affirmation for each day of the week:

  • “I accept myself as I am.  I am whole and I am healthy.”

  • “My mind and soul are at peace.  Everything that brings me joy makes me healthy.”

  • “I am love.  I am laughter.  I become vibrant with every hug and every laugh.”

  • “My spirit shines brightly when I give positive energy.  Positive energy ignites my healthy being into optimum performance.”

  • “When I am honest with myself, I am my healthiest being.”

  • “When I breathe, I feel peace.  When I feel peace, I am improving my daily life.”

  • “I love body, mind, soul, and spirit.  I am healthy and peaceful in just being me.”

  • “Each day is a new day.  I am grateful for my health and my peace grows each day.”

These affirmations can stop stress from taking over your health in your life.  By saying these affirmations in the morning before you get your day started, you set the tone for your overall start to a peaceful and self-accepting day.  

When stress starts to creep in, it has to battle the wall of positivity you have already set in motion.  If you do the affirmation repeatedly through the day, you gain peaceful insight to how you can overcome stress and reignite peace within. 

Saying these affirmations right before you go to sleep, allows the brain to process the positive message when your body goes into healing mode as you sleep. You are on your way to changing your cell structure and your body responds to the positive message as you heal. 

When you wake up you feel refreshed and inject more positivity with a new daily affirmation.
Your peaceful transformation begins to happen as your daily self-affirming, self-accepting, self-love heals, empowers, and provides a healthy mindset for your total being.


Monday, December 7, 2015


How do you define joy?

How do you define fulfillment?

How do you define happiness?

If you were to sit down and ask yourself these questions, how would you answer?  You would see that the ultimate contentment and happiness could be found if you break down what it is that each of these mean to YOU in YOUR LIFE.

As a child, it was natural to please others and ‘go along’ with the idea of what happiness actually means without ever addressing the attachment to the stimulation of this emotion.  

Over time, it became a conditioning of what that truly meant.

As an adult, when you start to figure out who you really are and what resonates within you, you start to discover that happiness is an inside job and it is only YOUR definition of it that can begin to dissect its meaning.

Yesterday, I overheard a couple arguing loudly in a store about what Christmas present would make their child happiest. The man started screaming angrily at his wife stating she didn’t really know her own child and what brought him joy. He knew Xbox gaming would make his son’s Christmas.  She yelled back loudly and accused him of not knowing his son because he never spent enough time with their child and if he paid attention, he’d see their son was starting to have an interest in music and a guitar would make his Christmas.

As you read about this conversation that was overheard, what would you decide?

Perhaps the boy would answer that what would make him happiest is to not have his parents fighting all the time and both of them to actually have a conversation with him and spend it being happy as a family like his other friends. 

Maybe his answer would be not to have others ‘assume’ what makes him happy and actually ask him what does.

Happiness is our own choice.  It is not a guessing game of assuming what makes others happy if you don’t know what that even means for yourself. 

As we celebrate the 50th anniversary of Peanuts, let’s take a look back to genius Charles M. Schultz who wrote the book, “Happiness Is A Warm Puppy…”

Each character defined, chose something different. Schultz let that be a child’s choice to DEFINE for themselves.  

Another conversation was overheard.  It was a young twenty-something couple. They were marveling at the holiday lights and the spirit of the holiday season. The young woman watched the kids at the gathering running around and playing, while others cried in tantrum mode at the sight of Santa. 
She turned to her husband and said, “You know the holidays won’t ever be happy unless we give our parents grand kids.” 

He said, “Yeah, but that won’t make us happy to have them before we’re ready and pay off our student loans.” 

Both continued to wrestle with their conflicting feelings looking totally lost and not wanting to be around the holiday ‘scene’ and they both mutually decided “Let’s get out of here.” 

Now on the flip-side here is what Happiness ISN’T….

  • It is not the expectation of your parents or their definition of it.

  • It is not your romantic partner’s expectation or their definition of it.

  • It is not ‘going along’ with the expectation your friends or peers impose upon you to say what happiness is if it doesn’t agree with how you define it.

  • It is not what society defines.

The young couple was not happy feeling the pressures and imposition of others definition of happiness.  They decided for themselves to get space and regroup.

What did you learn from this?

YOUR definition and what you attach joy, fulfillment to ultimately defines what you expect out of happiness.

Is this wrong?  It is only wrong if your priorities are not in alignment with WHO YOU ARE and if you are still ‘unhappy.’ 

That’s how you know it is wrong, because IT IS NOT WORKING FOR YOU.

When you are happy – it is when you decide you are happy and decide what that actually means.
Read that again.

You cannot ‘expect’ happiness to find you, until you decide to be completely OPEN to receive the happiness that is already there and say “This is good enough as it is, because I am good enough.” Happiness escalates from there, when you choose.

That’s right… it is already there.  It’s a gift waiting for you to open it.

Will you?

But as a humans, it is natural to like the chase.  So let’s take it from that perspective. 

Like a scavenger hunt for treasure, you can choose to find happiness in every single event, every single moment, each and every day. 

How YOU CHOOSE to attach your mood is up to you. You have the power to change it.

If your fence gets broken by a tree falling on it, you can be grateful that the tree chose the fence and NOT YOU.  

If friends or neighbors offer a helping hand to fix it or offer comfort for this happening, you can be grateful and happy you are so fortunate to have their support and care. 

If you do not have the means to fix it, perhaps you can be happy that you get to try something different as a solution and tap into creativity you didn’t know you had within you. 

You can choose to find the silver lining in every cloud if you allow your eyes to see it.

For the first couple arguing about their child’s Christmas present, they could see that the greatest happiness was having the gift of their son and maybe collectively decide WITH HIM, as a family how they could make their holiday happy and not ‘assume’ or ‘guess’ but actually communicate. The joy is sitting right there waiting for them to be enjoyed.

For the second couple, happiness was also right there as they first marveled at the lights and spent time together to enjoy the moment and their present decision in deciding this happiness was good enough right NOW. 

Have you ever noticed that after a major act of Mother Nature, ‘how grateful’ people are for the concern, the care, the out pour of love, the helping hand, the donations, the display of support and community outreach?  

While they are grieving losses, while their hearts are broken, some miraculous strength emerges from this darkness to seek the light.  We can learn so much by witnessing this unfold before our eyes.

Everyday automatic pilot days – happiness is missed.

But when overcoming challenges and facing a situation where there is sorrow or grief, happiness chooses to rise in the form of hope. 

Do you notice how people CHOOSE to focus on rebuilding, bonding, uniting, strengthening, and focusing on the power of hope, love, peace, and the support to grow stronger, become more aware and join forces to better the situation by connecting?  

Human beings naturally have this within. In times of struggle, they choose happiness to HEAL and grow stronger.  This is just human nature.  Everyone is equal in that we all have this to begin with, we just need to choose it.

Happiness is THAT POWERFUL of a choice – it can heal, it can help, it can rebuild, it can strengthen, it can CHANGE LIVES with that choice alone – first your own and inspiring others to let the happiness grow like a beautiful flower through a field of weeds.

Happiness is a choice.  You can choose to wake up and be grumpy or you can wake up and choose happiness.

Which do you choose?  

To understand this and how it ALL LINKS TOGETHER – Watch this video to get the 411 on how it all works:

Still confused?  Perhaps you can make the list talked about in the video, to see in front of your own eyes how YOU define joy. 

When you start to understand that you are placing responsibility on other people or other things to be responsible for your joy, this is why you do not have it.

It is that simple.  It’s not their job.  It is yours. 

You have a choice to look at difficulties in your life as growth challenges or you can choose to be a martyr.  

If you are unhappy, you are allowing your circumstances to define you.

Is that right?  Are you giving away the right to your circumstances to be responsible for defining you?

Aren’t YOU IN CHARGE?  When did you give up that responsibility?

Ask yourself when you gave permission for that to happen and reclaim your internal joy.

First, SMILE.  Feel how your body can automatically ‘feel better’ by this one command you put into your psyche of your overall well-being.  It’s miraculous how one simple muscle movement can give you something you did not have before you took it upon yourself to make that conscious choice.

Now imagine what it would be like if you made all your choices this way!  Choosing your mood, choosing your outlook, your perspective, your shift to optimism, opening your mind and heart to a new way of thinking, feeling, and being ---- BECAUSE YOU CAN! 

While this may seem like elementary stuff, daily life has somehow been enabled to rob adults of daily joy, daily fulfillment, daily happiness because we humans allowed that to be.

Now imagine if you decided you were going to show others your BEST SELF.

You would feel good about it, wouldn’t you?

It’s possible that your own joy can be inspiring others to do the same.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be able to open the door to joy, fulfillment and happiness each day by your own choice? 


CHANGE YOUR LINK.  UPGRADE YOUR LINK to happiness, joy and fulfillment. 
Choose to be content with your choices.

Reclaim the LINK to this happy place because you have the opportunity to do that for yourself.
It is there for you to choose in an endless stream --- and you can do this at your will to choose to smile and choose the mood that can make you feel good all the time.