Thursday, March 29, 2018


Sitting quietly looking at the ocean, my eyes gazed upon the sun beaming golden light piercing the calm, gentle, and still ripples on the water. 

As the cries of seagulls filled in nature’s orchestra pit in front of me in stereo, I wondered how many souls were being infused with this same exact source of inspiration. 

This stimulating majestic masterpiece provided an upward spiraling inspiring energy, which swelled in crescendo with each breeze and soft micro movement of small waves.  My soul was surprised that in this stillness, the light alone was enough.  There was no need for the high tide production of crashing surf to make the presence impactful.  Inspiration existed within tranquility, and this was enough.  Ahh….

I had wished in that moment I could capture the surreal force, that invigorated my being in 4D, beyond just a simple photograph or video, as it genuinely does not do it justice.  The magnetic, captivating lure was bigger than my human was, because it left me breathless in awe. 

Sometimes that kind of energy can be unexplainably intimidating in its grandeur for some to understand, because just is.  The only thing I could equate it to would be the Redwood Forest or the Grand Canyon or being on the rooftop of the tallest point in a city at night where the lights draw you into romanticism. 

It is a place where the stillness instills wonder, inspires through just being, and is there to take in with its own fanfare of existing.  It is the kind of feeling you get when you are cradled in comfort while exhilarated simultaneously, INSPIRATION is one of the most euphoric things for your total being in one non-stop flight. 

It got me thinking about this very question: What inspires you? 

Where do you continue to resurrect your LINK of inspiration? 

How often do you need to tap into cultivating more inspiration, based on your energy expenditure?

Do you have only one source or several? 

Perhaps you have not thought about this question as a human. 
Maybe you have not dared to ask yourself about this as a soul.  

You might already have your default methods for resurrecting your inspiration automatically and have not even given this a second thought; or maybe it does not matter to you as you go about your day as you are functioning on autopilot.

For those of you who are coming up empty, it might be time to create an ongoing list so that you have an automatic ‘go-to list’ to resurrect your inspiration for those ‘empty-tank times.’ 

We know there are days where you overplay your hand in the generosity of your spirit, your time, and your external ‘being on’ liveliness.  This happens (and it is normal) when you feel as if your soul is tired as you watch your human limping to the proverbial finish line of your day or week’s agenda.  These are the days when your exhausted warrior battle cry and/or your rebel yell leave you to where you barely have a voice left to speak. 

Humans sometimes push the envelope too far and will exhaust their inspiration tank endlessly, sometimes consciously and foolishly, even if the old soul fully comprehends all of this from past wisdom, what this will mean.

This is when you may hit a wall, and of course, it is natural for you to need inspiration the most when you arrive at this place.

Whether you are inspired by nature or by the enthusiasm and adrenaline of a hobby, sport, activity, or by art, music or any other source - for inspiration to be fully maximized, it is best to be present for it in the following ways:  

·         Witnessing/observing

  • ·         Extracting
  • ·         Appreciating
  • ·         Allowing yourself to be interwoven into the experience, so you can be swept away to draw out the best of the experience 

Let us make a very important distinction:

  • ·         INSPIRATION is designed to excavate what is already WITHIN YOU. 
  • ·         MOTIVATION is about DRIVING YOU FORWARD.

Many people confuse them as being the same thing, but they WORK DIFFERENTLY. 

Need more clarity?  While hitting ‘the wall’ is normal and happens to everyone, MOTIVATION sometimes has its own limits…. Here is a video for review:

So as we return to the initial question of where your inspiration comes from, it is also important to not only have a source, but to find ways for you to continue to cultivate ways to become inspired for your being to refuel and reignite your inner fire and purpose. 

Like motivation, inspiration is necessary as a part of your mind, body, soul, and spirit health well-being and maintenance.  

How you become self-sustainable with your inspiration is vital for you to keep balance as you motor through the day-to-day, but also to help strengthen your core grounding to overcome challenges that may come your way.  It is like preventative mental, emotional, and spiritual medicine for your soul.

If you take the time to understand how to continue to tap into where you get inspired, you can take great comfort during those times for when you may come to a crossroads.  

Knowing how to stay alert and aware, you will not have to figure out HOW to FIND your inspiration again, it will become natural to you, the more aware you become with your need for refortification.

Do not worry, you will not need to create a strategy, rather you have something else already within you: 

Our higher consciousness can be our best friend to tell us when our inspiration bank needs attention. 

When we feel that ‘lack,’ that ‘void,’ the ‘meh,’ ‘blah,’ or simply know we need to do something to something different to feel that moving magic within again, our inspiration button has a way of getting our attention.   

Start accumulating your go-to resources for inspiration.  You will find yourself always prepared for those moments when you need to refortify your energy to be grounded once again. 

Meanwhile, look around you, pay attention to your environment and pause in the moment to take assessment of how even the small moments in stillness might be able to help you find inspiration daily. 


Wednesday, March 28, 2018


The music stops.  The paintbrush goes dry.  The writing instrument stalls.
Nothing is cooking on the stove.  Nothing is being designed, or being built, sculpted, filmed, sewn, drawn, edited, produced, danced, photographed, or created in any way and the garden, once beautifully manicured with well-orchestrated rows of colorful blooms simply dries up and dies. 

You may think what you are about to read is about pure artistry in the classification for which you are most familiar.  Surprise!  Nope…  YOU ARE CREATIVE and creativity exists WITHIN YOU. 

However, this is the very reason why I am writing this… creativity does not always come in the familiar form you think.  

Your everyday life IS a work of art whether you think of yourself as a creative or not.
When the vigor is not there and the vision is not there, this can be alarming for anyone, not just ‘artists.’ 

What is this called?  Creative block.

Anyone can have a creative block on any given day, even for those who do not think of themselves as creative by label or name, however the ‘art of doing’ and the ‘art of being’ exists within every human soul. 

This is life… it happens.

When your life encounters the death of a loved one, sometimes the creative process dies, too.

While most creative types who define themselves as artists might thrive upon sadness or grief, do their best work, and channel all of their energies into making something spectacular, it might come as a shock, if it doesn’t.

For those who never even think of themselves in these terms, can also have ‘the block’ where the zest for creating simply fades.

What happens when a death halts creativity completely?  

What if your livelihood is reliant up on being creative or if one of the top joys of your life is doing creative work? 

For those of you, who missed Part 1 of how to deal with this, get caught up watching my video here:

The blog follower who asked me this question did NOT say his livelihood depended upon being creative again. However, he DID SAY/mention he was creatively blocked from picking up that guitar because of the loss of a loved one and the memories he had attached to being creative.

This was part of his regular everyday life. 

For you and your regular everyday life, there are things you do whether it is work or school, taking care of loved ones, doing purposeful things, which produce some sort of result for others in what you do.  There are also things you do for yourself as part of your self-care, sanity, and part of creating your own safe haven in the form of outlets, hobbies, and self-expression.

That self-expression does not always have to come in a form the way most people believe it to be so in traditional form of creativity. 

The point I wanted to create with PART DEUX with the "overcoming" part of “Dealing with Creative Blocks Linked to Grief” is that both everyday life and livelihood can be affected, even if you are not dealing with creativity in the pedestrian terms of what that means.

Grief does not always have to come in the form of death of a loved one.  It can also come in the form of the loss of __________ (anything/anyone) and that is inclusive of windows of time, opportunity, or application of being authentic in the most meaningful moments of your life.

When we close chapters in our life, it is usually the creative outlet where the human soul finds a coping place of solace.  However, what if that temporarily pauses, too?

The creative cylinders in our brains find creativity in everything from problem solving, strategic planning, dreaming, developing our imagination, sense of adventure, exploring life and having the energies to exert into the things which tickle our interest, curiosity and wonder.

Recently, I did some business coaching with individuals who felt ‘blocked.’  

Unlike “Lavon” mentioned in the video above, there was no death of a loved one, there was no guitar involved, but the creative blockages were still there in a corporate setting.  

Creativity exists in being able to visualize communication, conversation, and solutions to overcome obstacles within conflict – both externally and within one’s self with one’s truth.
These individuals had lost sight of being able to see that there was conflict “within” and instead only saw the conflict outside of themselves, utilizing the external as a scapegoat in lieu of owning inside what was happening.  They were not realizing they had the solutions within themselves to overcome most of it…they just had to tap into their ‘creativity bank’ of understanding HOW they approach any situation and that there was possibility for solution.

Grief can exist when hopelessness takes over, clouding insight because you are now FEELING EVERYTHING and your brain wants to logically process things mechanically.

However, when you are dealing with humans and not machines, solutions in finding that creative navigation through the blockage requires deeper examination.

When the ‘mechanics’ take over, sometimes this creates a deeper creative blockage, because thinking becomes linear. 

Let us remember, emotions are NOT linear.  This is the problem. 

SOLUTION:  You can also evolve through the blockages it IF you allow yourself to FEEL everything and process it…. which of course is a rollercoaster at times, but if you ride through it, you will see the light afterward.

Many prevent themselves from SEEING the solution. 

Most humans put up ‘walls’ or ‘shields’ and ‘shut off’ the flow of feeling because it is uncomfortable.  However, the more you shut yourself down or shut yourself off from FEELING, the worse it will be because things have a tendency to build in your cell system memory and become a ‘trigger point.’ 

You can eliminate both your creative blocks and your grief, if you develop the patience with yourself to go through the actual process.  There is never ‘the right time’ to do this, so do not convince yourself you’ll “feel” later or “grieve” later – this will only create more problems.

As I suggested in the video, we need to compartmentalize our problem-solving (one of the creative processes, which you may feel is dead within you). 

·         List your feelings by addressing every single one of them.  This may sound ‘weird’ because we humans do not do this.  However, if you SEE what is going on in your head and heart it is easier for you to accept it, acknowledge it by looking at it, and then allow yourself to come to terms with it to address it to FEEL IT.  You can give yourself permission to “FEEL” it once you see it to understand it.

In the video, I address two other columns as they specifically relate to the questioner’s individual unique situation, your two columns can be and will be different depending on WHAT (situation/loss) or WHOM (it can even be your ‘lost self’) you are grieving, but the application is still the same.

Once you allow yourself to go through the process FULLY, you can then begin to chip away at your own creative blockages, where the energy can flow freely once again. 

Remember, even if the loss is permanent, the present feeling of grief does not have to be overwhelming to where that becomes permanent, too.  

Instead, if you allow yourself to go through the period of grief and fully release it, you will be able to return to your creative processes once again.  Perhaps they (the processes) may even become stronger once you do, because you will have taken yourself through the arduous trek of overcoming, which will ignite a stronger sense of self and spirit to execute in the creative self-expression of your life. 

Above all, do not fear that this block is a ‘forever block.’  Look at the ‘block’ as something that is challenging you to evolve and know that it can be worked through, but you have to give yourself permission and patience to do so… it is YOUR RIGHT TO FEEL. 

You need not be ashamed of declaring that for yourself, nor do you need to backburner or shelve it for ‘later.’  You are allowed to claim this time ‘to feel’ so you can fully purge what has been building up in grief.  It is normal, it is healthy, and above all, it is for your own well-being to create mind, body, soul, and spirit wellness IN BALANCE.  

When we return to this balance from the erratic process of what grief represents upon owning it, by experiencing it, it is here the blockage no longer hinders and we can find the flow once again. 


Sunday, March 25, 2018


THANK YOU, Lovely Souls.  It is with deep gratitude I say these two words for allowing me into your frontal lobe cortex, and parietal lobe of your brain.

While this may sound super freaky geeky, my gushy Zen heart is truly grateful for the privilege to share this personal space of tapping into your psyche, and problem-solving arena.  The fact we can share this sacred blogosphere space is something I do not take for granted.  It is my pleasure to assist you in resolving your internal conflicts so that you can get the most out of enjoying your life here.

Today, I have much to share after conducting a private life-coaching workshop for some clients.  I had asked them what they wanted to see in my next blog and while many thoughts were tossed around, there was a glaring one, which I feel compelled to write.

“Being enough” seems to be a common topic that pops frequently in the vast stretch between business and personal life crossover.  Therefore, it is time to address it.

Let us start with YOU.  You are complex.  You have a busy life, which pulls you into so many areas of being the ‘perfect’ __________ (daughter, son, sibling, parent, neighbor, co-worker/colleague, friend, etc.)

In the most basic, fundamental place of being YOU… sometimes, you may not feel like you are doing a good job with all of the many hats you wear. 

Sometimes you have too many hats to wear at times when life throws you curveballs of having everything happen in one short span of time.  It is here there seems like there is not “enough of you” to go around.

Other times you may hear crickets, not quite in demand and then your analytical mind will tug and have you question, “Am I doing enough?”…  “Am I being enough?” or simply “Am I enough?”  This may be when your self-evaluation creates doubt or triggers overcompensation of your efforts to fill in some sort of perceived void. 

  • For the students who keep going beyond the grade, the extra credit, the extracurricular…  

  • For the workaholics who keep burning the midnight oil or the candle at both ends, while sacrificing sleep, social time, or ‘me time’ …  

  • For the families who ‘keep putting off’ the reunion, the vacation, the _________...

  • For the philanthropists and humanitarians to work tirelessly leap frogging charity to charity…  

  • For the ones who have a mission, goal, life purpose, dream, and bucket list …

“Being enough” … is a commonplace for humans to continuously navigate day-to-day, in one life area or all of the above and for the soul to contemplate and search endlessly. 

Perhaps this is why it came up so frequently (though in a blend of varied contexts) when I asked my workshop group what they wanted to see here in this space.  

So let me ask you….  WHERE DO YOU fall in this “being enough,” equation? 

What do you question, and more importantly – HOW do you answer?  What terms have you come to with yourself and how do you compartmentalize this place of being enough? 

What we need to understand about the human brain, is that our thought processes vary depending on how we are feeling the most fulfilled, the most accomplished and the most satisfied.

Clinically, we can look at the brain.  Here is how this is broken apart:

  • Our frontal lobe will try to problem-solve our way through the idea of ‘being enough’ and make a decision as to if this is so.
  •   The parietal lobe is where we hold perception – which of course can change if we open ourselves up to how we see ‘being enough.’

  •  Our temporal lobe holds memory and controls our vision, our hearing, speech, and …emotion with regard to being enough.

  •  The temporal lobe is what we sometimes try to wrestle with because of our “environment.”  If we hear and feel “being enough” ….  Well, isn’t  - this can create a bit of a war with the rest of how you deal with the very idea of understanding (thinking/feeling) if your ‘enough’ is just that. 

Emotionally, here is where you may struggle with commitments, obligations, your boundaries, your terms, your own logic of what that means, including your own questioning of the subject, and how you process what “enough” really means.

Take a deep breath, Lovely Souls.  I know it is a lot at times for you to be you.  It is not an easy task to juggle all of the pieces of who you are, what you seek, how you want to show up, and how you navigate the space of ‘being enough’ to everyone, and yourself. 

Defining ‘being enough’ is a tough job.  However, it is your responsibility to be comfortable with what that means for you, because IT IS YOUR LIFE.  

No two people may agree on exactly the same definition of it, based on who they are and how they apply meaning and mattering in the context of that idea. 

For those of you who deal with self-worth and self-esteem issues, I want to comfort you in saying “you are enough as you are.”  How you decide to ‘own that,’ is something you need to proactively choose for yourself and not really for anyone else to say.  

Remember that your own uniqueness continues to fuel your pathway, your life, your choices, and your well-being.  No one should be granted the permission to tear you down.  Trust that ‘being enough,’ is enough to combat that energy - and YOU HAVE THIS ALREADY. 

It is here we can celebrate all that you are as is, and propel your ‘being’ onward and upward into uplifting energy to sustain what ‘enough’ means to you, your psyche and your soul in a positive life-affirming light.

Moreover, that… can be ‘enough’ to help you see just how being who you are is enough.

Blessings to you!