Sunday, June 25, 2017


When you were a child playing outside and told to get in the house –in your heart did you rebel even though you knew you had to get inside or you would be punished? 

When you were in high school, told by your brothers or father to try out for the football team because they did, but your heart really wanted to play basketball – did you choose baseball or do what they wanted you to do to carry on the tradition?

At work, when you are in a group meeting where your co-workers are looking at going a certain direction with ideas, but you know in your gut there is a better solution – do you speak up?

Every single day whether you are a child, or a teen or an adult, we have choices in honoring our LINK to our INDEPENDENT SELF. 

Most of the time, we look at consequences for honoring that LINK or shelving.  

Sometimes shelving it is good in that we are respectful of others, we try to create peace to avoid conflict, and sometimes we shelve it to be a team player or to honor traditions. 

However…. Sometimes shelving our independent LINK is bad when it becomes a detriment to our soul and who we are, what we desire and who we wish to become, because conformity is not always a healthy thing, if we are living our life anything other than our authentic selves.  When this happens, we are not being true to who we are and if it goes on long enough, we end up living a lie in order to make everyone else happy except ourselves. 

Although very small samples of this can be considered noble, in the end when we do not honor our INDEPENDENT SELF, we lose our identity and believe that in order to be accepted, we must be something we are not based on someone else’s ideal or measurement of what is acceptable.  

The more we do this, we are creating examples of saying that this is ‘okay’ and then we only create a place where others fall into the same pit.

What we can do is embrace our own uniqueness – and in the same breath lovingly accept everyone’s differences…. Even celebrate them for being unique to all the other souls struggling to find acceptance both within themselves and with one another.  

It all begins with us.  For those who are brave enough to do it, they will learn to be comfortable as they are – but they need YOUR support just as much as you need support for who YOU ARE.  

Speaking up to say “Hey, that’s not me” or “I prefer this XYZ kind of movie” or “I like this kind of food better” or “I don’t agree with your hardcore opinion, however I respect where you are coming from and can see your point” may not be the easy choice for your voice.  Sometimes due to cultural, political, generational, or social class differences, there are things you may not fully understand.  It is best not to be judgmental – but rather find freedom in your own being so that you can allow others to be free with theirs.  

In the end, your honesty within yourself to your own truth and independent thoughts, feelings, actions and viewpoints can create peace within you if it is true to who you really are, rather than following the masses in trying to be accepted for your inauthentic thoughts, ideas or feelings that truly do not resonate with your soul. 


Wednesday, June 21, 2017


Home is where the heart is… however, your own assessment of what makes your house your home can vary, depending on where you are in your life.  

Whether you were a military child who moved around a lot, or if you have stayed in the same small town or geographical area or have moved to a different city, state or country… the truth is no matter where you go, you’re never more home than when you are finally comfortable being your true self.

Sometimes in life, the ‘idea’ of a change of scenery can be a good thing. We all need things like vacations or breaks away from the grind of life that zap us from our own energy source. Most times, that may be all that is needed to feel centered.

If you’ve had a ‘calling’ of sorts, a tug, a pull to go to a certain place, it may be part of your destiny that you simply ‘know’ within your mind’s eye that is where you are supposed to go.

Other times, certain life events (job, death, illness) take you to a place where you have never even imagined you would be, or had even fathomed as a destination place to begin a journey or new adventure.  It is here you could be surprised by your own discovery of what feels comfortable and like home to you.

Home starts with us.  It begins within our being.  Nevertheless, how do you know whether you are ‘at home’ with yourself? 

Ask yourself a simple question – “Do I like who I am and where I am?” 

This simple question can tells you whether you are ‘at home’ with your being. 

Quite often we go along the road of life like a machine and only encounter this question on the side of when we’re feeling negative… it is those days where we ‘nit-pick’ ourselves. 

This is not good for our psyche, nor our soul.  It chips away at who we are and it is destructive at times to our own progress. 

Most humans nit-pick the external, (height, weight, appearance, job title, income) and utilize those as measurements for the answer to that questions.

Some humans who live in the emotional sphere, nit-pick about their relationships with others as well as point fingers of blame at others for where they are in life… when relationships require the participation of two people, not just one. 

There are those who fluctuate between the spiritual realm and human realm to ponder bigger questions about ‘the meaning of life.’  They often nit-pick about their own progress or evolution for their higher purpose. 

Nit-picking is not healthy to keep running through our veins of our existence.
The bigger picture of life is missed and dismissed when we focus on the negative energy space rather than the positive energy space.  And while we KNOW THIS from an elementary ground in general about life, we often do NOT apply it to ourselves.  

Quite often we are our own worst critics and continue to move farther and farther away from "home" within ourselves in daily life.

Regardless of where you sit, and who you are in where you sit to answer this question, the answer should be a loving one that sits in the pocket of self-acceptance because you are YOU and no one compares to you. 

When we understand that our own self-love and self-acceptance is key to finding our TRUE HOME within our being, we can begin to feel at home no matter where we are.  If we are rooted in the key foundation of all happiness, all success and all being and knowing simply because we start from our own base of HOME in who we are.

You have the key, you have your own welcome mat waiting for you… take a deep breath and realize your LINK TO HOME is right within the center of your being.

Take good care of yourself… and remember that your own happiness is centered in the joy of enjoying who you are as you are when you rest in the goodness that arises from the peace you have in your mind and heart.


Saturday, June 17, 2017


When life gets chaotic and busy, usually we keep pushing forward to keep going.

Sometimes when we push hard, we open ourselves up for illness, injury, or missteps in judgment, clarity, communication, and decision-making.

It is HUMAN to try to be everything to everybody and meet all the demands of life.

However, when the SOUL is tired… humans who function and navigate life from the mental/cerebral place of logic will often combat the soul and subconsciously justify in saying
“It’s just my human vessel that is tired, and the soul can miraculously do anything and carry on.”

Emotionally and spiritually this is true when it comes to endurance, tenacity, persistence and determination.  Though make no mistake - sometimes we need to honor our BEING in order to unite the human psyche with the human body so the soul can function from a place of replenishing gathered and expended energies within a cycle.

Huh?  What the heck does this mean… you ask? 

If you’ve ever battled a long illness, then you know your soul is so tired that your own brain isn’t sending signals to your body to recover as fast as your human would want it to.  

Or if you’ve ever injured yourself, you know that it takes a broken bone, a bruise or a cut to heal within a natural time frame.

There is such a thing called ‘soul fatigue’… it is real. When it is completely depleted or exhausted, it slows down to a halt.  Sometimes the soul and the human cannot communicate effectively in a fluid motion the way that we often take for granted. 

Sometimes our own souls are fed up with our human for lack of recognition and combats/battles through this fatigue to endure anyway, but there are times when it also needs a vacation. 

How do you know this is happening? 

Your human recognizes this as burn out and your soul says “Okay human… you’re on your own – I’ve gone fishin’ so this healing thing is gonna be slow as molasses.” 

Your soul simply feels ‘meh’ and ‘numb’ and ‘blah’ – in need of a recharge.

This is when your HUMAN decides to be a vegetable in front of the TV or become a hermit or the opposite, going to endless happy hours trying to ‘disconnect’ when you’re already disconnected. 

In meditation, your higher consciousness can float high above all of this to literally see your own soul’s fatigue.  However, when we operate on a human level – we will often find the ‘disconnect’ between mind, body, soul, and yes, spirit.

It is here the human tries to take over to be in ‘control’ and makes wrong moves operating in the place of only the head and not the heart, gut or soul level. It is here you will find arguments between humans, because there is a lack of understanding, compassion, empathy, because the human brain goes into a war zone of trying to survive, when it does not honor the soul to just let it be to REST. 

The difference between being and doing in human mode is quite simple.  The soul is the one being and the human is the one doing.  When we are healthy and synchronized with ourselves and our energies, external environment and others – the human will carry out what the soul naturally gravitates toward.  

However, when we are out of synch… we get muddled, confused, lost and suddenly nothing jives with the human rapidly trying to overcompensate when all it has to do is LISTEN to let the soul rest to refuel, recharge and refortify itself.

Humans do not like to HEAR the word REST… we’re always multitasking our life. But when we take a step back and SLOW DOWN we gain perspective and clarity from a new zone as we shut off the environmental noise long enough to process/release/surrender to what the soul ultimately needs to be back in tip-top shape once again. 

Give yourself a break (for real).  Release the self-criticism, expectations, self-imposed demands and remember that tomorrow is another day – we don’t need to do everything to the point of complete exhaustion whereby we end up being a detriment to our own well-being. 

Take on each day and provide the gift of patience to your own soul.  You’ll be glad you did and your soul will thank you!