Sunday, May 27, 2018


The plateau… it is the open landscape destination for anyone desiring to achieve. 

When you are driven to achieve, you wake up each day knowing what it is you have to do.  
This is the key motivator; it is the ultimate push, the driving force, the reason

Depending on the kind of person you are, there are different kinds of motivation:

  • ·         Motivation is something to keep you inspired.
  • ·         Motivation is something you use as a self-challenger.
  • ·         Motivation keeps you grounded.
  • ·         Motivation provides you with something to continue to propel yourself forward.
  • ·         Motivation becomes your purpose.

Which one applies to YOU?  One?  Two?  Maybe all of them?  Maybe you do not know or have not bothered to define this because you have always worked toward reaching the plateau you have put forth for yourself, so you just keep on going with blinders on.

It is here, I will take your blinders OFF... ask you to breathe and ask yourself what is your motivation for the plateau or for the summit?  How does it apply meaning, mattering and above all, fulfillment and satisfaction to your soul?  

Have you ever looked at it from this place before?  Do you even care?  Or is your motivation so simple that it remains satisfying for you for it to be one dimensional.

That is fine, if you are happy. However, if you are not, this is why I will ask you that question.

For me, one-dimension is not soul satisfying. Some days I consider it a blessing, others a curse, but it is authentically who I am and if you are like-minded, you may see that I understand you from this mutual place of knowing you question more. Sometimes you can question more from yourself, other times you can question more from the energy of life. 

I wanted to begin a conversation about this because there is one thing that no one ever talks about and that is, how do you get ‘beyond the plateau?’ 

For some people, they believe that the only answer is just a greater summit.
But then, this becomes a problem, too.

What if you have reached every goal that you have ever set for yourself to achieve? 

What if you believe you do not have any other summits to reach, never mind have no interest to reach, because you are fulfilled, satisfied and content? 

Many overachievers sometimes believe that a place exists where ‘there is nothing else’  and for some, it feels empty in the human sphere, as the soul stretches beyond the realm of knowing that is not true.

Some humans/souls even get to the destined plateau and ask, “Is this all there is?”  Some reach the higher summits and ask the same question.  

Sometimes this produces a questionable future and a scary place of being where the ‘unknown’ exists all over again likes a high school student not knowing what they will choose as their college major.

Take a deep breath overachievers... it's not over. Perhaps this is a new place to begin.


Did you know that something beyond it existed? It does!  Where is it?  It’s this place ‘beyond the beyond.’ 

I am not being extraordinarily geeky… beyond the beyond does exist, and it is a different ‘plateau’ for everyone, depending on how willing you are to expand your realm of possibility. 
Most humans limit themselves to the human world, living in this bubble of the tangible achievement that includes goal, action, and then result.

However, if you are functioning in SOUL mode and not HUMAN mode, you will SEE that the ‘beyond-the-beyond’ place I speak of is really TRANSHUMANISM.

Transhumanism is a level of nirvana for the soul to realize.  It is exhilarating for the psyche, for the heart, for the spirit and liberating beyond the limitations of the human experience.
Though, I will warn you that if you live in this beyond-the-beyond sphere frequently, it can create trouble for your human having to navigate as a human on Planet Earth because your SOUL desires to seek out the company of SOULS living in the SOUL experience, while the majority of the beings live mostly in the human place.

My human and my soul admit openly that I fluctuate in the in-between of these spheres, and I am frequently challenged at times in the human world because I am still here.  This is not a bad thing. 

This is why I bring up that the LINK to finding your place BEYOND THE PLATEAU AND SUMMIT, is in itself a new plateau and summit.

Still with me? 

In other words, or should I say ‘in other worlds’ … your new plateau/summit is figuring out how to ‘function’ as your evolved SOUL SELF navigating human challenges with an entirely brand new perspective to now float between these two places to choose your actions accordingly.  

This goes beyond choices, this expands beyond consequences and outcome, because all within its existence the ripple effect flourishes.

Some souls don’t want to ‘deal’ with human stuff because it is human… not as important as the soul’s evolution between lifetimes, dealing with past karmic debt, old soul contracts, life purpose as a human for the reason of ‘being here’ and said human agenda the soul has within the human flesh puppet.

In my last blog, I spoke about the human experiences, which can be dehumanizing.  

I wrote it from the place of everyday human ‘inconvenience/petty challenge,” as a way to convey how the human world can be dehumanizing… even for the soul if the soul is present when the human is challenged.

Now let’s look at it from the opposite place.  Let’s take the reality of ‘why’ the human is forced to look at that… perhaps it is for the soul to also reach a brand new understanding about going beyond that to see something bigger.  The reason for doing this is to demonstrate exactly what we have been talking about in terms of ‘floating in the in-between.’

Those are human experiences.  Repairing the dehumanizing link repairs it for the HUMAN and takes the SOUL down a pathway toward a new plateau to reach on Earth, only to return to the plateau on an upwardly mobile spiral in the SOUL SPHERE. 

So if you are looking for motivation, and your human is “meh,” “blah,” “tired,” – perhaps it is really your own soul nudging the heck out of you to look beyond-the-beyond to SEE what you did not see through the lens of the human eye from the soul’s own perspective.
If you are feeling “found” by that statement, I am glad to have presented it to you.

If you are feeling “lost” by that statement, I am also glad to have presented it to you.
Either way, you are technically now being directed to an opportunity to go beyond the plateau of where you think/believe you are. 

Suddenly, you are now driven and motivated to move your mind, heart, spirit, human and/or soul to a frontier that has not yet been explored, when you had believed there was ‘nothing left’ to explore, strive toward or discover.

Self-discovery is a 24/7 introspective place if you allow yourself the freedom to explore it in a new way. With greater awareness and self-awareness (they are not the same thing), you have the ability to grow both upward and forward simultaneously and onward beyond this plateau you believe you have conquered, but have not yet EXPANDED to the fullest depths or the greatest heights.  Movement has the potential for both directions, however most only see the ‘onward’ part, and move on to what they believe is some finality.

Trust in the fact that you are a continuous student in the school of life as both a HUMAN and a SOUL and this in itself is INFINITE.  Rest assured, you still have many directions to go, and that in itself is a beautiful and magical way to think about this thing called LIFE.

So dream, believe, aspire, thrive… there is SO MUCH MORE.  You can go there and keep going.  I will see you there and give you a high-five to remind you of the fabulous potential you still have and the amazing places you can still go.  You have done a great job so far… let us keep going and see exactly where it is you can go!

Blessings and light.

Saturday, May 26, 2018


I see you… as you look at the title of this blog and say “Huh?” and “WTF?”

Perhaps this is precisely ‘why’ I am writing it… because it is needed. 

So yes, I am going there in a very fundamental/elementary/pedestrian way to bring this home to those who need to understand it from another place.

I will start by being HUMAN and say, it has been a tough few weeks.  I have not been online as much as I had hoped and my blogs have thinned in frequency, as I honor my soul for a bit to take care of some things stirring within.

This week, there was an electrical fire.  My modem started smoking and blew up.  This is not due to its age or by my hand, this is due to a power outage.  When the power came back on….  It fried, along with my phone and other electronics, despite being attached to a surge suppressor. 

This power outage was not due to any storm or due to Mother Nature or even some freaky turn of events; this was a scheduled power outage.  However, one flick of a switch and your life can be derailed in an instant.  It is not your fault, however you feel helpless when things happen all at once.  This is similar to when we had El Nino and my roof caved in, I was sitting on the floor collecting rain in buckets and forced to wait, while fighting the flu and the waitlist to be helped was a mile long as I was not the only one. 

After overcoming a 14-hour day in Los Angeles, a bout with food poisoning, this sudden event was already piled on top of coming off my writing a 436-page book in twenty-nine days (to which a friend said, "is that all?" - and was serious about it, not even sarcastic), with the post office losing it for ten.  I still showed up vibrant to provide the ‘atta girl’ and ‘atta boy’ support, cheer and lifeline of service to clients, family and friends, whom require weekly validation and reinforcement, without many knowing what was going on ‘behind the scenes’ of my life. 

Limping to this place is not new.  It has been my life and somehow, I manage to resurrect laughing while tearing up out of frustration in the grocery store, when mindless folks take selfies in the aisles, blocking my path, or ram my cart as they run into it while texting in their haze/daze.  Sometimes all I am trying to do is get food to go home and cook to create my refuge of refueling, refortifying, and regrouping to continue to be of service, yet some days are harder than others. 

It is here, I just shake my head and sigh, “Really, people?” 

After calling the utilities company with the only working phone I had left that had one bar of connection, I ran through the gamut of ‘press 1,’ ‘press 2.’  Here in this what seemed endless abyss of robot voicemail prompt circus of trying to get help for this unexpected hell of rebuilding my return to normalcy… the stoic person on the other end who finally answered after several minutes could not connect to my human.

Yes, she heard my story, or so she said.  The first thing she said was, “Go online and fill out this form.”  I asked her if she had listened to my story… and if she heard the part where everything blew up and I had to start over. Short of running to one of the few libraries left (since many are closing), I am not quite sure how she expected me to do this, rather than help me from her end where everything was working properly. 

She was disconnected more than I was, because she did not ‘hear’ or ‘see’ what was needed.  It felt dehumanizing and this was not a large example. 

This was a minuscule taste of dehumanization in comparison to relatives or friends dying and the airlines giving you the hardest time, when all you are trying to do is go to a funeral on the other side of the country. 

This was a minuscule taste of dehumanization in comparison to your friends knowing you have health-related dietary restrictions, yet you are invisible and they book an event at a place where everything served is something you cannot eat.  

This was minuscule in comparison to colleagues calling a meeting under the guise of wanting to get to know you over coffee, but they never ask you a single question, rather they pitch you everything ‘all about them’ and when it is your turn to have the floor, they ‘suddenly have to go.’ 

This was minuscule in comparison of paying to go to a leadership summit whereby the agenda claims to be about working together to find solutions, but rather it is one where everyone preaches, yet no one wants to do the ‘real work’ – leaving it to the ones still struggling to find the answers, because they have already ‘made it.’  It is dehumanizing to be invisible, and forgotten, whereby everyone is in this for themselves.

Yet all of these minuscule ‘moments’ of dehumanization add up, as I have experienced them all and yes, sometimes things like this have happened to me in one day, on a day when friends are too busy to talk to you or everyone is gone on some luxurious holiday.   

I bring this up as an ‘everyday dehumanizing experience’ in order to make a point in order to provide both awareness and hope, challenge and change and as a wake up call to those, who unknowingly do what they do without paying mind to their daily actions. 

If humans choose to lack compassion, understanding, resourceful mindfulness, or an out-of-body human moment, we are not left with much in terms of humanity.
Therefore, I encourage all of you to connect to the story I am about to share – we have moments of re-calibration for connection. 

You can make a difference and it does not take much...

Even while limping along during times when some days are tougher than others, we all have the capacity and ability to continue to be the example.  I am human and sometimes while I am in no shape some days to feel like much, particularly being in a service industry for a living giving until the tank is empty and hanging on until the window where I can refuel, I will inevitably find/see/catch someone in a lesser place and try to connect.

Such a moment happened as I got in my car to go replace my cable box.  I had to turn onto a street from one direction; while another car had to cross it in the other.  However, neither of us was able to cross it, because a tiny Chihuahua on a leash decided to do its business smack dab in the middle of the street, pulling its owner into this awkward place. 

The owner was embarrassed.  A few people behind us honked out of frustration (as if that would make the Chihuahua hurry or scare the s**t out of it faster).

Though my car and the other car across from me sat there waiting calmly.  The dog shivered struggling trying to finish its business and I looked right at the owner smiling, as she patiently waited with us.  I could feel her humiliation; I could connect with her reeling mind of hoping no one would get irate and get out of their car.  I could sense and feel her anxiety of also hoping her dog would hurry up so they both could get safely out of the street so they would not be run over by some crazy person. 

When the dog finished, she used her plastic bag to go pick up the excrement.  I rolled my window down to smile at her to wish her a good day, smiling as I put my hand over my heart.  

She smiled as if she had had a compilation of minuscule dehumanizing moments piled up bigger than her dog’s punctuation on what life felt like at that moment in that street now sitting, steaming in that plastic bag.  She looked back at me smiling and mouthed ‘thank you.’


SIGH.  Therefore, if you have had a dehumanizing day or week, I encourage you to allow yourself to take a deep breath, step back, have a brief out-of-body moment to connect to someone else also having the same and see how YOU can make a difference.  See how you can offer a moment of patience, a kind thought or word or gesture, be selfless for a second or several, and know that your everyday actions can make a difference.  Even the smallest positive action is not minuscule even of the minuscule negative dehumanizing moments preceding this in your own life as you give it seem monumental in comparison.
It is here we have the power to shift, and change, even by one action, which can make its own statement and perhaps provide hope, life, faith, reassurance, and affirmation to another human/soul. 

Blessings to you!


Friday, May 18, 2018


Are you feeling out-of-sorts?

Do you feel on-edge?

Are you anxious and not quite sure ‘what to do with yourself’ and your energy?


If you grumble reading that word, then you probably need to rest more than you think.
If you get frustrated seeing that word because you don’t believe it is the answer to the questions asked above, then you need to re-evaluate what that means.

What if we change that word “rest” to ‘slow your roll’ or ‘chill out’ or ‘kick back?’ 

Do you feel better seeing that instead of the word, ‘rest?’ 

Isn’t it interesting how we humans apply our own self-imposed thoughts, feelings and ideas to words, even if the words essentially mean the same thing.

Why is that?

We live in a society of ‘go-go-go.’

Somehow, the idea of delivering is like being expected to always be ‘on.’  

What if I were to say, ‘you don’t need to be “on” today” – but rather, “you can just hang out and float for a bit?” 

Would you feel ‘relieved?’  Would the pressure somehow magically dissipate?  

Could you feel tension leave your being where you could feel like you might be able to just breathe a bit?  

Sometimes, we need to give ourselves permission to be human. 

In this non-stop immediate gratification world of delivering, and being ‘on’‘ over the top’ and in excessive-mode of ‘doing,’ ‘achieving,’ and constantly producing results like machines, we need to regroup and ask ourselves WHY the restlessness is there when we are not ‘on.’ 

This stems back to things like people-pleasing, feelings of not being up to par, or somehow creating disappointment or guilt related to not meeting someone else’s perception/idea or expectation, and sometimes has to do with self-imposed expectation. 

Somehow a stigma is attached to the idea that if you ‘rest,’’ you are lazy or that it is somehow selfish to do so, when there are so many things ‘to do’ and ‘places to be’ and ‘ways to show up.’ 

Over-commitment is as much a psychological disorder for the sake of over-compensation for fear of there being some sort of ‘lack’ or ‘void’ or a need to feel placed into a space of belonging and self-acceptance. 

Humans fluctuate in this ‘space’ quite often …all humans have encountered this, no one is immune to this ‘crossroads.’  Sometimes the space is created by work places enforcing participation. These are usually the places demanding constant ‘overtime,’ even when someone is off-the-clock, with the expectation of being a slave to your mobile device 24/7.

Other times, family ‘guilting’ or social pressures ensue with friendship circles to ‘be on.’ 

These ‘pressures’ have developed a dis-ease of ‘go-mode’ on a new level, because people are being slaves to technology, in addition of the regular showing up further fragmenting their HUMANS and in total neglect of their SOULS. 

The outcome?  Restlessness when someone is actually trying to rest, because there is no quality rest to unplug or “be” or prioritize self-care in the realm of being a source for soul fortification. 

Sometimes this restlessness is paralyzing because there are so many ways you have spread yourself thin to ‘answer’ to others, before you have a chance to answer what lies within your own needs for you to be your best self in order to show up. 

Here is where you discover your self-worth and where it is realized, self-actualized and where you can claim it for the first time or reclaim it from where you lost it in losing yourself in being “on” and “out there” instead of taking the time you need for “inside” your head and heart.

Self-worth creates self-esteem. Self-esteem is something that can be lost, when you are overcompensating to over-deliver to ‘be enough.’   

Where does this come from?  It could come from a place where you are creating a basis to deliver on your own unrealistic self-expectations or someone else’s imposed expectations, which you feel compelled to meet.  

There is nothing wrong with over-achievement. However, you can be a detriment to yourself in being this way, when your tank is empty from being everything everyone else expects you to be, but lose your own soul’s guidance, mission, purpose, ‘reason for being’ and honoring within why you are here and what you are essentially here to do. 

Take a deep breath, because you are enough as you are, once you are enough for yourself. This is where it starts … with YOU.  Here things fall into proper place and realign perspective so you can feel less restless, by being fulfilled in your own quality rest to regroup the balancing connection within. 

Once you get to the place of this balance, you are able to honor your own quality time resting so you have more of yourself to deliver to show up as your authentic being wishes to show up in daily life.