First, the LINK OF TRUTH BASICS (watch video)
TRUTH. It is a BIG
WORD. Most of us know what it
means. Some of us know only a fragment
of what that means in the context of living our authentic life on our real
terms as we are in the seat of self-acceptance and non-judgment.
Whew. That is some
heavy-duty stuff, eh? Hey, it had to be
COMPLETE.
Everyone is spouting the idea of living your authentic life
as your true self, however I must point out that most of the stuff out there is
INCOMPLETE…. because what is missing is
the self-acceptance part and non-judgment
While the majority of folks out there know, what judgment
means from the exterior world, most fail to address what it means in the
personal INTERNAL world of what goes on inside your head!
Let us get real for a second. You KNOW you have moments of self-doubt. You KNOW you have moments where you
‘question’ your thoughts, feelings, and actions based on what you THINK may be
exterior judgement from the world.
However, what is really going on that NO ONE TALKS ABOUT is
how self-critical you can be as your own judge, kicking yourself, sabotaging
yourself, and abusing yourself with negative thoughts, woulda/shoulda/couldas
in your ACTIONS as how you show up as YOU.
So, let us break this down into something digestible…
When you are asked, “how you are” – most people respond with
“okay” as the conventional answer – even if THAT is not your truth. You may think that is the politically correct
response. In addition, most days this
response will suffice, right? Some may
be brave to say “eh, or meh or … surviving.” Others may even go a step further to vomit
their entire drama of what is going on.
We don't need to 'pretend' to be something we're not. It's okay to be human and sometimes we can connect even better with those in our circle when we show up this way. It takes the pressure off of everyone, so they too can be their authentic selves. This is not to say you bring drama with you everywhere you go, but you are allowed to BE YOU when the right time/place/connections provide the safe haven foundation of doing so.
We don't need to 'pretend' to be something we're not. It's okay to be human and sometimes we can connect even better with those in our circle when we show up this way. It takes the pressure off of everyone, so they too can be their authentic selves. This is not to say you bring drama with you everywhere you go, but you are allowed to BE YOU when the right time/place/connections provide the safe haven foundation of doing so.
Now when we get to the core of being authentic, and truthful
in living our truth, it is about self-ownership. Self-ownership does not mean we need to be an
open book necessarily – we have our boundaries (which are healthy) and we have
our specific compartments where we only give trust by a selective process. However, your self-ownership has to do with
NOT BEING IN DENIAL of what is going on, with the façade that does not serve
you well.
How we SOLVE this TRUTH thing… is creating SAFE SPACE. How we get SAFE SPACE is we develop it by our
own SELF-ACCEPTANCE WITHIN OUR BEING.
The world is a tough place sometimes. While it would be a miraculous and amazing
world if the entire world accepted everyone, and everyone co-existed peacefully
and we still strive for that and aim for it by our own personal actions with
how we show up… it has to start with each one us first.
When the self-acceptance thing comes into play, our truth is
more evident, our voice is more real and we can confidently BE and DO what we
came here to do as ourselves.
If we are our own worst enemy, we do not get very far.
Then if we allow or give permission to the outside sources
to AFFECT, INFECT and INJECT negative-speak to where we deny our truth, we do
not get very far either.
Many people are not comfortable in their own skin as
themselves. Place 100 people in front of
a mirror and they will say, “I’m too____________.”
Watch the negative words fly. Humans sometimes default to self-destruction or self-sabotage. This is not healthy.
Place 100 people in a situation where they have to walk
outside their comfort zone to do something and you will hear “I can’t/won’t.”
However, you will never hear the real reason as to WHY. Nine times out of ten, it will be based on
exterior judgment, but the reality is that it is connected to INTERNAL JUDGMENT
and perception and sometimes that is much more painful to address, as it
results in confrontation.
Here is the catch… if you are too afraid to ___________
(fill in the blank) – then how can you own your truth until you get truthful
with the “WHY” you are afraid? At some point,
you have to examine FEAR. Once you
examine FEAR, then you can get to your truth, because you will know WHY and
then HOW to own it, fix it, resolve it or change it! Voila!
That is how you get to your truth. You don't need to be afraid of yourself. You're amazing! :) Remember that! There's no one like you!
Be kind to yourself.
Addressing truth and fear is not easy.
It will not happen overnight.
However, once you make the decision to take action, you can finally
walk, talk, and live in your truth and LINK to your truth so that everything
resonates within.
Namaste.
