You hear me say often in these blogs and my videos to
connect your mind and the heart as a part of mind, body, soul, and spirit wellness.
Your heart is your soul’s engine. When in doubt, check with your heart – as
your mind is sometimes conditioned to tell you logically things that may not be
rational.
What?
You heard me. I said it. Your mind is sometimes not rational because you have not addressed some of your default behaviors or issues. You may often systematically talk yourself
out of things or into things based on past trauma, habits or behavior, and where
you lie in your comfort zone.
You have lived your life, this journey, this pathway with
the idea that human intelligence is centralized in the brain. There has been this whole societal focus on
I.Q.
I have admiration for people with super uber high I.Q.’s ---
Mensa level intelligence folks have always inspired me to be a lifelong student
in learning and growing to expand my brain's muscle.
However, being a student of life and subscribing more to the street-smart theory has
always resonated in my heart more deeply than isolated book smarts. I had the great honor many years ago working the State of California's Sesquicentennial where many 100 year-olds gathered. Let me tell you, the accumulated life experience human emotional intelligence wisdom collected in one space had me rethinking transferred and conditioned ideals about how we isolate brain vs. heart logic.
That is my truth, because it is HERE I have
learned more than in my collective time in the classroom. This actually speaks volumes coming from me
since I had some of the most inspiring teachers. However, they were most inspiring because
they were non-traditional and unconventional and they never contained the way
they taught isolated to any teaching agenda.
With that said, I wanted to write this blog to talk about emotional
intelligence, my home turf of daily operations, otherwise known as E.Q.
The heart is a muscle.
If we take our brain out of the way for just a moment, sometimes we can
hear our heart and what its truth is telling us.
It is here the brain likes to intercept the heart – much
like in a basketball game stopping the ball in action and running back down the
court the other direction.
Can you see it? Yeah…
it happens. The brain likes to do layups
like a show off thinking it always knows best, that is until during one game
the heart says, “One day, I’m going to trick you and show you what this heart
can do and I will full-court shoot in the last second rundown of the clock, and
I will win.”
What humans do not realize is that in the end, if something
is resonating strong enough at split second, a decision that is heart-driven
will be in greater emotional intelligence alignment with the SOUL’S TRUTH.
That’s right. THE
SOUL’S TRUTH.
If you are caught in a dilemma or a choice battle – it is
often that your brain and your heart are in combat.
In the 2015 blog, True To Your Heart, I address the higher
level of consciousness in heart consultation: https://linkronicity.blogspot.com/2015/09/being-true-to-your-heart.html
The brain likes to sit in fact and absolute information to
‘make sense’ and be certain decisions are made logically, from a smart place. Most of the time, this is a good thing.
However many people end up unhappy in life making decisions
solely from this place and quite often the place of regret will come from the
realization with “Oh, but I really wanted to do XYZ or choose XYZ and I didn’t
because I thought it was smarter to do what made more sense at the time.”
I see you nodding.
You have been here, huh? Of course,
you have if you are human. At some point,
you have been at this place.
Why I am writing this is so that you do not waste any
additional time sitting in the pool of regret.
First, start with an emotional intelligence move and forgive everyone
you blame including yourself.
Next, choose to check in with your heart. That in itself is always the smartest to do,
so you can be certain of where your truth is sitting.
Deep down, the things that resonate with your feelings
provide a gateway to connecting with what moves you. When I say ‘moves you’ –
that means it connects on a soul level to what you know you need to do as far
as your happiness, your inner wisdom and where you feel most peaceful. The most peaceful decision-making and choices
come from this place, because they reside with the REAL YOU, not what the brain
defaults to in addressing statistics or even past experiences (good or
challenging).
When you get comfortable in owning who you are from the
heart space, you begin to see how you can exercise your own awareness of your
joyful existence, not just the logical one.
Do not get me wrong, the brain is a brilliant engine all its
own… but it is NOT the only engine that exists within your human being.
If you consult with your own emotional intelligence, based
on what you feel you will find more times than not, your heart knows what it
knows from the place of your authentic core truth of what it is you know you
need to do for yourself better than anyone else.
Heart conditioning. Yeah,
it is a real thing. Moreover, we need to
start having a real conversation about this.
Acceptance, love, and inclusion all reside in the heart
conditioning space of truth. Without honoring truth as in internal-to-external authenticity,
we collapse in isolation in a graveyard bubble of darkness unable to have
meaningful connection, which drives the engine of our being.
Our soul operates at its optimum level when we function from
the place of self-acceptance, self-worth, and awareness of our own authentic
choices. If faux-functioning, then true
joy and happiness cannot be found from an organic place and it is replaced with
void filling of various other unhealthy vices, crutches and replacements of
addiction (hoarding, shopping, eating, video game playing, etc.) as false sense
of security.
The human’s biggest fear is loss, rejection, shame,
embarrassment and a long list of things that do not need to be real if one
takes the biggest, boldest, most courageous step of honoring their heart link.
In honoring the human soul by this one act of truth from the
heart link, our life’s journey can avoid many unnecessary and time wasting
speed bumps.
All humans eventually get from point A to point Z, as The Universe always has everyone’s greatest and highest good at
hand… there just may be more life lessons to get there until one gets their
wake up call.
However, the trek is more
direct with heart authenticity and the bravery to confront one’s truth and
honor one’s soul without censorship of negativity and self-destruction. When you operate from the place of basking in
realness and find comfort in this space, you will see it is one of the greatest
links to cherish in your life.
Namaste.
