REVIVING AND UNDERSTANDING THE LINK OF DISCONNECTION

Numbness, daily flat lining, status-quo… the blahs.  Are you bored with your own life?  Do you feel like you are only existing and not living?  

You are not alone.  Most people say they are ‘bored’ or point fingers of blame at people in their lives for this boredom or circumstances, which create a DISCONNECTED LINK from LIVING. 

But HOW can you reconnect your excitement for life again?

How can you get your life back on the track of feeling daily joy?

First, we need to understand the basics of this feeling and why we are stuck.  Here is an ‘overview’ of where you may find yourself:

AFTER THE VIDEO:

Okay, that is great… but how can one small thing or one small change really change what I am feeling?  Is it possible to actually overcome the blahs with one small change?

YES.  But first, you have to understand that it is YOUR  PERCEPTION that needs to change or nothing else will follow that NEW PATTERN.

Things we do to add excitement are simply like a façade remedy.

Some people DEFAULT BACK TO COPING MECHANISMS to deal with stress, frustration, and yes, even blahness, complacency, or disconnection.  But after all the shopping, dining and like it was mentioned in the video, vacations ---- most find THIS IS NOT ENOUGH to add excitement.

So then, many believe that they need new friends, a new relationship or even a new job.

For a while, this may seem to be the remedy, but you find that your new circle of friends, new relationship or even new job still bring you back to the same place once the ‘newness’ runs out.

And honestly, that is not going to fix the problem either.

Then what will? 

YOUR CONNECTION to your DISCONNECT. 

One of the reasons in the video, charity work was suggested was so that you can begin to see your own life through the eyes of someone you do not know. 

Your friends and family will tell you what you want to hear or know you so well that even the conversations you have will ‘always be the same.’

Connecting through charity work gives you a stranger’s perspective.  Your life is exciting to THEM, because they see you from a place of giving something of yourself that YOU DO NOT GIVE BACK TO YOURSELF on a daily basis. 

We often take ourselves for granted.  It is easy for us to give to others, isn’t it?  Giving back makes us feel good.  Yet we do not often allow ourselves to feel good on our own terms. 

When you open your world to others, you also see them through their eyes.  You are coming from a place of wanting to HELP THEM.  In turn, YOU ARE ABLE TO HELP YOURSELF.

What?

YES.  Helping yourself.  

Now it is important NOT TO CONFUSE ‘REWARD’ with GIVING TO YOURSELF.

Material items will not solve the problem of boredom, numbness, or disconnection.

You see, we even take our own ‘boredom’ for granted.  We do not understand or SEE that to someone else, our lives are greater than the sum of its parts.

This shifts your perspective.

Now… in the video it was also suggested that you gather your friends and loved ones, then go do something you have never done before.

How is this different from just trying something new on your own?

Why is it important?

It is important because if everyone else is also doing something they have never done before – i.e. say you all go hiking at a national park that’s always been on your ‘to do’ list or go try volunteering at a pet shelter or something… you all experience new sensory experiences.

From here, you get to have NEW conversations, even if the people are still the same ones from your circle and you invigorate your own ‘blah syndrome’ from what was once your boring routine Sunday Brunch or movie night.  

That one change now sparks several minds with a shift in newness.  This can trigger other new thoughts or ideas and suddenly your old routine is not making you feel the same, but rather encouraged and inspired to make other shifts.  

THIS IS THE KEY.  You need to have new conversations around you – BUT you also need to make sure the conversations YOU ARE HAVING WITH YOURSELF change, too.

WAIT A MINUTE….  What?

Yes.  If we tell ourselves our lives are impossible to change repeatedly, we begin to believe it.  When we BELIEVE IT, then we BECOME IT and we are only contributing toward the energy of this becoming worse.

If we choose to resist change, then everything always stays complacent and you become even more DISCONNECTED from where you were in the first place.

Sometimes all we need is that one thing to get the ball rolling into new territory.  That new territory has the potential to spur greater change.  However, it all begins with RECONNECTING your DISCONNECTED LINK to the possibility of change. 

We often feel change is daunting.  Yes, change is scary.  However, we must leap to embrace it in order for it to become what we want, which is ultimately to be different from where we presently are in our complacency. 

Though it does not have to be so grand from the start to immobilize our efforts.  Tiny changes have the potential to trigger larger efforts once you get into a new habit of making steps before you make strides.  The strides then have a way of happening naturally on their own. 

So if your life is feeling blah, and you are disconnected from feeling anything exciting within yours, start small today for greater changes to create new beginnings for tomorrow. 

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PURGING TOXIC LINKS FOR BETTER HEALTH

Migraines, back-pain, digestive distress.  Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired?

It is time to address purging toxic links for better health.

Is your life making you sick? 

Do your doctors tell you that there is nothing wrong with you, even after you get a second and third opinion, and a myriad of medications? 

Once you have been cleared by your doctors and they have told you that you are ‘fine’ – are you finding that you continue to have repetitive pain, headaches and queasiness?  Have your friends and family told you that it is all in your head? 

You may want to look at your life and see what is causing you so much stress. 

What in your life is not resonating with who you truly are?

Do you find that worry, anxiety, fear, deep grief, and other emotions are connected to your everyday life?

These emotions are toxic to your health and well-being and by reducing your stress around them, you can remove their damaging effects by not allowing them to linger in your psyche, or in your heart/gut/soul.

Usually at highly stressful times in our lives we get sick, we feel back pain, we get headaches and we just don't feel good.  This causes us to eat poorly, lack rest, and burn the candle at both ends doing too much and not taking the time we need to take care of ourselves. 

Are you dismissing your own truth, your own voice, your own heart because you are feeling trapped, obligated to be something you’re not based on who you have in your circles of your life? 

Are you denying yourself pure happiness, joy and freedom because you have set yourself up with such extreme parameters for achievement, or placed self-imposed expectations on your life? 

Do you take on everyone else’s drama?  Or do you feel like the negativity receptacle from your so-called friends and family? 

Is the language you have in your head lately only negative words? 

Are you finding that your ‘support circle’ really is not supportive of you and your life at all?

These are the very TOXIC LINKS YOU NEED TO PURGE for optimum health.  

Sometimes in life, we need to make changes in our daily dealings with others.

But most of all, we need to make changes within ourselves to handle every life situation in the best light without being harmful to ourselves with the boomerang effect, so we can live it in a healthier way. 

Sometimes we need to set boundaries (see boundaries video) 

When we set boundaries and make changes to our life to limit negative energy from invading our life, we can prioritize the energy we do choose to let in which can help us live life in a more joyful and healthier direction.

By honoring who we are at the core, we can invite health to flourish. 

Self-care is the most important thing we can do to allow ourselves to be at our best and create healthier links after we PURGE OUR TOXIC LINKS by making room for only the good energy in our total well-being. 

Namaste.

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PAUSING FOR GREATER EFFECT: LINKING TO YOUR PAUSE BUTTON

Sports have a time-out and half time.

Your place of employment has a breaks and lunch periods.

Elementary schools have recess.

Day care has naptime.

Life offers vacation time.

Stage plays have intermission.

As humans, we are presented this pause button option throughout our life.  The “idea” of taking a break or pushing the pause button is always right there in front of us.  We are conditioned to understand that the pause button is there for good reason.

Did you know you could reduce blood pressure, stress, and improve your health and well-being by LINKING TO YOUR PAUSE BUTTON? 

It is true!  You can also prevent diet derailments (eating due to stress), and other unhealthy addictions in your life the more you connect to how you LINK to your ability to pause.

When it comes to the knee-jerk reaction of anger, frustration, impatience, or even self-doubt, humans often forget that the pause button exists. 

Reaction in the human brain/psyche becomes a blurred line with action in most daily interactions with others because it involves immediate presence in our lives as well as the ability to understand our own LINK TO PAUSE.

Where have you noticed this the most? 

Have you seen this at your work place?  Standing in line for coffee, at the dry cleaners, or in line at an amusement park ride?  In a restaurant, in traffic or at the public restroom? 

Emotions can run high when the mind chooses not to press the pause button.

A simple thought or feeling can turn into something, which can swiftly get out of control because one forgets that the pause button exists at all.

When we look at arguments for example, most of the time people are yelling on top of each other without listening to what the other person is saying long enough to ponder what is really being said.

If we were to press a pause button on heated situation, we would see that both parties involved are coming from a place of pain in recall of an old wound or situation, which triggers that response. 

However, pressing the pause button in this situation usually does not happen fast enough for most, because both people are reacting and the action becomes an escalated argument.

What if we were to take this same argument and press a pause button for a moment to pay attention to what is really happening?  

If you were to ask each person if he or she were invested in the idea of having a negative interaction, you would discover that neither person initially wished to participate, yet the participation happened.

Why is this so?  Is it ego?  Or is it the need to be ‘right’ or the desire to resolve something of the past, which has absolutely nothing to do with the fact someone, is arguing with you over taking the last bagel? 

When we take a step back and pause the situation, we are able to see much more than what is existing on the surface.  The same can be said for wherever you are in any scenario at work or at home. 

If we choose to hit the pause button more often in life interaction, we can improve upon our understanding in relating to one another each and every single day.  Suddenly, that person who cut in front of you in line at the grocery store is not a big deal, when you look at them with compassion that they did not hit their pause button.

In this situation, you begin to see you have choices – If you connect to your own PAUSE LINK:

• You can make the person aware (in a non-heated way) of their actions by pointing out where the line begins and that you’re all in the same boat having to wait, when you all have busy days and laugh about your pooled circumstance.

• Say nothing and let the situation pass, as you acknowledge your own heightened awareness of your surroundings and see that many live life with blinders through their own fight to get through their day.  It is here you can be grateful that you live life with a bit more understanding.

You begin to understand that the person cutting in front of you has nothing to do with YOU… it is about where THEY are in the present moment.  Cutting in front of you was not actually a personal selection to make you a victim of that situation – if you give them permission to do so. 

This is where you have another choice.  You can SEE THE SITUATION DIFFERENTLY.  You are not a victim and it was not their intent to make you a victim of their choice action.  Becoming a victim of their lack of awareness, courtesy or their one-lane-blinders-on-life coping mechanism is YOUR CHOICE.  

This is what you begin to see in your daily life when YOU connect to your own LINK OF PAUSE within your life chain. 

With self-awareness, we all have the ability to connect to our PAUSE LINK at any given time you choose to improve your daily life.  

It takes practice to be present in every moment, but with enough practice, we can reduce stress and negative emotional health scenarios as well as physical aftermath of health issues when our bodies respond to those blood pressure spikes and stress inducing situations. 

The long-term effect?  While health and wellness is the largest benefit, you can also improve your own lifestyle by eliminating daily annoyances, inconveniences and negative thoughts and feelings so that every day is a happier one.  You are no longer connected to the auto-defensive response to situations which create anger, frustration or impatience (all of which are not good for your psyche). 

We have the ability to improve our own well-being with this one LINK TO PAUSE to think rather than react and mirror what the other person is doing.  By making this change and tweaking this LINK, we can create our own daily peace in recognizing our ability to co-exist and manage our own thoughts, reactions, and actions.

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LINKING TO YOUR INTUITION

Have you ever had a ‘feeling’ that you should go somewhere, do something, or turn away based on a moment where you had a feeling ‘in your gut’ that you should take said action?

Have you ever had a conversation with someone asking you for your opinion of what you ‘really think’ or they asked you to participate in something you felt queasy about doing and something told you not to comply? 

Your intuition was present.  If you happened to catch yourself in that moment, you were tuned into your intuition, paying attention to acknowledge the signal you were given.

How often we pay attention is debatable, because it depends on our level of awareness.  See LINKING TO AWARENESS https://linkronicity.blogspot.com/2015/09/linking-to-awareness.html

 

Once we are aware and choose to be present, our state of mind and senses are elevated.  When this happens, we can see that we are LINKED to our intuition and have more clarity about things. 

The minds of animals and babies are “less cluttered” than ours, and their intuition may be more connected to respond and react on hunches more often than ours. 

In our world today, we have so many distractions pulling us in many directions.  It doesn’t matter how many apps you have on your phone to make you ‘more aware’ of things happening around you, as those very apps can be the culprit as to why your intuition signals are scrambled. 

Think back to when you were a kid, and you were going back to school.  You didn’t need to look at the calendar or pay attention to the fact your parents may be doing a happy dance. 

You may have been playing all summer, not paying attention to the advertising on television announcing back-to-school sales.  BUT – you knew summer was coming to an end, the weather was starting to change a slight bit, the energy in the air was different and your radar told you things were going to change…SOON.  This is intuition.

If you have ever watched a dog wait for someone to come home, you’ll see slight movement in the tail, eyes will widen and ears will perk up a little more.  They can’t read a clock, but they pay attention to the signals in their body which tells them someone is going to be walking through that door… SOON.  This is intuition.

Our intuition as humans as we know it, has this capability.  Too often as adults, we dismiss our intuition.

Have you ever thought about someone and within the hour, that person called you on the phone?  This is intuition. 

Maybe you chose not to attend a party, because you knew it was a place you really shouldn’t be, then you heard the next day that something terrible happened.  This is intuition.

How many times has this happened in your lifetime?  This is your intuition at work.  Your senses, when they are working at their best capacity, plug you into your own LINKED connection.  

But….How many times have you ignored a red flag when your gut kept telling you to pay attention to it?  Did you ever kick yourself after-the-fact when you did not pay attention to your intuition?  

Maybe you knew you shouldn’t have driven your car past a certain point in a storm, or maybe you knew you should have gone to the doctor sooner, because you sensed something was wrong with your health, but ignored your gut telling you to go. 

These are just a couple of life moments where we ignore our ‘red flag’ alert.  Most often, we see red flags in everyday life situations, too.  Sometimes there are so many, humans condition themselves to turn a blind eye. 

Intuition can also be used to help us do things.  But again – sometimes we do not always follow it for a variety of reasons _______ (fill in the blank).  You probably have heard stories from people in your life who have said “Gee, I wish I had gone to visit this vacation spot before nature destroyed it. I had a feeling I should have gone…” or  “If only I had ________”

While we cannot change the past, what we can do for ourselves is allow our minds to quiet down, shut off the noise in our environment.  When we decompress, sit back and allow a peaceful space to help our minds take a break for a ‘tune-up’ so that we can LINK back to our intuition again and pay attention to it. 

Now there is a point where we get that TUGGED LINK... that tug of intuition where we know something is going to change soon or that we should get out of a situation because something will cause us to take action to leap. 

What we can do in moments like this is prepare as best as we can for that opportunity.  This can include taking care of our health and well-being so we can handle the extra energy we need to expend in order to be ready for that huge jump.  We may want to clear space at home or clear space at work or get more sleep/take vitamins or sometimes we may want to do other preparations for the 'just in case' scenario so we have a plan B for what our intuition is telling us to prepare for.  

Yes, life is busy… but using our intuition link can be for our highest good and help us live our own lives much better, improving our own connection to our gut instinct once again.

We are then able to recreate healthier scenarios from an organic and authentic place of knowing which resonates with us from the inside, rather than ‘reacting’ or going into the constant mode of catching up to constantly be in crisis clean-up mode to situations which could have been prevented had we been tuned in a little better. 

Linking to our intuition can have a healthful benefit, too.  We can pay attention to what we truly need and what makes us happy.  If we respond truthfully to what our gut tells us, we are aligned better to cope based from a place of authenticity, rather than only responding to influence.

Namaste.

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