Sports have a time-out and
half time.
Your place of employment has
a breaks and lunch periods.
Elementary schools have
recess.
Day care has naptime.
Life offers vacation time.
Stage plays have
intermission.
As humans, we are presented
this pause button option throughout our life.
The “idea” of taking a break or pushing the pause button is always right
there in front of us. We are conditioned
to understand that the pause button is there for good reason.
Did you know you could reduce
blood pressure, stress, and improve your health and well-being by LINKING TO
YOUR PAUSE BUTTON?
It is true! You can also prevent diet derailments (eating
due to stress), and other unhealthy addictions in your life the more you
connect to how you LINK to your ability to pause.
When it comes to the
knee-jerk reaction of anger, frustration, impatience, or even self-doubt,
humans often forget that the pause button exists.
Reaction in the human
brain/psyche becomes a blurred line with action in most daily interactions with
others because it involves immediate presence in our lives as well as the
ability to understand our own LINK TO PAUSE.
Where have you noticed this
the most?
Have you seen this at your
work place? Standing in line for coffee,
at the dry cleaners, or in line at an amusement park ride? In a restaurant, in traffic or at the public
restroom?
Emotions can run high when
the mind chooses not to press the pause button.
A simple thought or feeling
can turn into something, which can swiftly get out of control because one
forgets that the pause button exists at all.
When we look at arguments for
example, most of the time people are yelling on top of each other without
listening to what the other person is saying long enough to ponder what is
really being said.
If we were to press a pause
button on heated situation, we would see that both parties involved are coming
from a place of pain in recall of an old wound or situation, which triggers
that response.
However, pressing the pause
button in this situation usually does not happen fast enough for most, because
both people are reacting and the action becomes an escalated argument.
What if we were to take this
same argument and press a pause button for a moment to pay attention to what is
really happening?
If you were to ask each
person if he or she were invested in the idea of having a negative interaction,
you would discover that neither person initially wished to participate, yet the
participation happened.
Why is this so? Is it ego?
Or is it the need to be ‘right’ or the desire to resolve something of
the past, which has absolutely nothing to do with the fact someone, is arguing
with you over taking the last bagel?
When we take a step back and
pause the situation, we are able to see much more than what is existing on the
surface. The same can be said for wherever
you are in any scenario at work or at home.
If we choose to hit the pause
button more often in life interaction, we can improve upon our understanding in
relating to one another each and every single day. Suddenly, that person who cut in front of you
in line at the grocery store is not a big deal, when you look at them with
compassion that they did not hit their pause button.
In this situation, you begin
to see you have choices – If you connect to your own PAUSE LINK:
- You can make the person aware (in a non-heated way) of their actions by pointing out where the line begins and that you’re all in the same boat having to wait, when you all have busy days and laugh about your pooled circumstance.
- Say nothing and let the situation pass, as you acknowledge your own heightened awareness of your surroundings and see that many live life with blinders through their own fight to get through their day. It is here you can be grateful that you live life with a bit more understanding.
You begin to understand that
the person cutting in front of you has nothing to do with YOU… it is about
where THEY are in the present moment. Cutting
in front of you was not actually a personal selection to make you a victim of
that situation – if you give them permission to do so.
This is where you have
another choice. You can SEE THE
SITUATION DIFFERENTLY. You are not a
victim and it was not their intent to make you a victim of their choice action. Becoming a victim of their lack of awareness,
courtesy or their one-lane-blinders-on-life coping mechanism is YOUR
CHOICE.
This is what you begin to see
in your daily life when YOU connect to your own LINK OF PAUSE within your life
chain.
With self-awareness, we all
have the ability to connect to our PAUSE LINK at any given time you choose to
improve your daily life.
It takes practice to be
present in every moment, but with enough practice, we can reduce stress and
negative emotional health scenarios as well as physical aftermath of health
issues when our bodies respond to those blood pressure spikes and stress
inducing situations.
The long-term effect? While health and wellness is the largest
benefit, you can also improve your own lifestyle by eliminating daily annoyances,
inconveniences and negative thoughts and feelings so that every day is a
happier one. You are no longer connected
to the auto-defensive response to situations which create anger, frustration or
impatience (all of which are not good for your psyche).
We have the ability to
improve our own well-being with this one LINK TO PAUSE to think rather than
react and mirror what the other person is doing. By making this change and tweaking this LINK,
we can create our own daily peace in recognizing our ability to co-exist and
manage our own thoughts, reactions, and actions.
Namaste.
