Numbness, daily flat lining, status-quo… the blahs. Are you bored with your own life? Do you feel like you are only existing and not
living?
You are not alone. Most
people say they are ‘bored’ or point fingers of blame at people in their lives
for this boredom or circumstances, which create a DISCONNECTED LINK from
LIVING.
But HOW can you reconnect your excitement for life again?
How can you get your life back on the track of feeling daily
joy?
First, we need to understand the basics of this feeling and
why we are stuck. Here is an ‘overview’
of where you may find yourself:
AFTER THE VIDEO:
Okay, that is great… but how can one small thing or one
small change really change what I am feeling?
Is it possible to actually overcome the blahs with one small change?
YES. But first, you
have to understand that it is YOUR PERCEPTION that needs to change or nothing
else will follow that NEW PATTERN.
Things we do to add excitement are simply like a façade
remedy.
Some people DEFAULT BACK TO COPING MECHANISMS to deal with
stress, frustration, and yes, even blahness, complacency, or
disconnection. But after all the
shopping, dining and like it was mentioned in the video, vacations ---- most
find THIS IS NOT ENOUGH to add excitement.
So then, many believe that they need new friends, a new
relationship or even a new job.
For a while, this may seem to be the remedy, but you find
that your new circle of friends, new relationship or even new job still bring
you back to the same place once the ‘newness’ runs out.
And honestly, that is not going to fix the problem either.
Then what will?
YOUR CONNECTION to your DISCONNECT.
One of the reasons in the video, charity work was suggested
was so that you can begin to see your own life through the eyes of someone you
do not know.
Your friends and family will tell you what you want to hear
or know you so well that even the conversations you have will ‘always be the
same.’
Connecting through charity work gives you a stranger’s perspective.
Your life is exciting to THEM, because they see you from a place of
giving something of yourself that YOU DO NOT GIVE BACK TO YOURSELF on a daily
basis.
We often take ourselves for granted. It is easy for us to give to others, isn’t
it? Giving back makes us feel good. Yet we do not often allow ourselves to feel
good on our own terms.
When you open your world to others, you also see them
through their eyes. You are coming from
a place of wanting to HELP THEM. In
turn, YOU ARE ABLE TO HELP YOURSELF.
What?
YES. Helping
yourself.
Now it is important NOT TO CONFUSE ‘REWARD’ with GIVING TO
YOURSELF.
Material items will not solve the problem of boredom, numbness,
or disconnection.
You see, we even take our own ‘boredom’ for granted. We do not understand or SEE that to someone
else, our lives are greater than the sum of its parts.
This shifts your perspective.
Now… in the video it was also suggested that you gather your
friends and loved ones, then go do something you have never done before.
How is this different from just trying something new on your
own?
Why is it important?
It is important because if everyone else is also doing
something they have never done before – i.e. say you all go hiking at a
national park that’s always been on your ‘to do’ list or go try volunteering at
a pet shelter or something… you all experience new sensory experiences.
From here, you get to have NEW conversations, even if the people are still the same ones from
your circle and you invigorate your own ‘blah syndrome’ from what was once your
boring routine Sunday Brunch or movie night.
That one change now sparks several minds with a shift in
newness. This can trigger other new thoughts
or ideas and suddenly your old routine is not making you feel the same, but
rather encouraged and inspired to make other shifts.
THIS IS THE KEY. You
need to have new conversations around you – BUT you also need to make sure the
conversations YOU ARE HAVING WITH YOURSELF change, too.
WAIT A MINUTE…. What?
Yes. If we tell
ourselves our lives are impossible to change repeatedly, we begin to believe
it. When we BELIEVE IT, then we BECOME
IT and we are only contributing toward the energy of this becoming worse.
If we choose to resist change, then everything always stays
complacent and you become even more DISCONNECTED from where you were in the
first place.
Sometimes all we need is that one thing to get the ball
rolling into new territory. That new
territory has the potential to spur greater change. However, it all begins with RECONNECTING your
DISCONNECTED LINK to the possibility of
change.
We often feel change is daunting. Yes, change is scary. However, we must leap to embrace it in order
for it to become what we want, which is ultimately to be different from where
we presently are in our complacency.
Though it does not have to be so grand from the start to
immobilize our efforts. Tiny changes
have the potential to trigger larger efforts once you get into a new habit of
making steps before you make strides.
The strides then have a way of happening naturally on their own.
So if your life is feeling blah, and you are disconnected
from feeling anything exciting within yours, start small today for greater
changes to create new beginnings for tomorrow.
Namaste.
