Friday, September 7, 2018


Closure… This is a word you probably hear a lot about, however it is usually only left at this surface description of what the word really means.

First, let’s define “closure” in the context of where we are going with this as defined by Merriam-Webster Dictionary: 

clo·sure : an often comforting or satisfying sense of finality * victims needing closure

; also : something (such as a satisfying ending) that provides such a sense

Many humans use this word to mentally and emotionally provide “comfort” and “peace” after facing or enduring something traumatic themselves, or to provide comfort and peace to someone else. 

This sense of ‘finality’ is somehow supposed to help the human psyche and heart find solace in whatever has happened, while the soul sometimes takes a back seat in processing it, because human grief tends to overshadow/override the higher-self-knowledge to deal with remnants of pain.

While ‘death’ of a loved one has the most immediate ushering of confrontational ‘finality’ for someone to have to ever face the idea of closure, “closure” is not as pronounced for some people when it comes to something beyond a human ‘life’ ending. 

Examples of this can be anything from the loss of a piece of time, an era, a relationship (i.e. your own losses or even your parents' being widowed or divorced), a job or career, and even geography i.e. buildings, businesses, nature via natural disasters/climate change, people moving away from your neighborhood, and even a favorite product, service or something as basic as a TV show. 

Everyone who ‘emotionally connects’ their well-being and identity/existence to something or someone will experience different levels of grief based on their own senses of “loss.” 

Inevitably individuals will have different interpretations of the word “closure” to move forward with life and be open to new experiences and change.

I decided to write this blog because everyone around me is experiencing a different summit of facing ‘closure.'  Just because all of these experiences ‘differ’ – does not mean that someone’s grief or dealing with the ‘finality’ of said grief is easy; nor should it be judged by “what context” this LINK of needing closure may be.

It is necessary to discuss this, to bring about awareness for everyone that there should not be discounting of another human’s experience, emotions, and their attachment or sense of loss just because it differs.  It is in understanding the depth of one's link to grief, that we can ultimately discover the LINK OF CLOSURE.

For many people experiencing the recent California fires, or Hawaii’s volcano eruption and hurricane/flooding – the grief and coming to the sense of closure is and can be just as intense as someone losing a parent, child or grandparent or pet. Their identity of community and ‘home’ with energies dispensed into ‘building something’ – can go beyond the material, even grieving for Mother Nature herself, and the life lost with animals and vegetation, history created and made; and the removal of the past.  

For many people given pink slips at many of the corporations doing layoffs, the sense of loss and grief sometimes goes beyond the surface loss of a job or paycheck, or even upholding their household, but rather the investment of years of labor, service and believing in something so long it is its own death/connection to what may appear to be wasted, or disregarded, minimizing and dehumanizing contribution.

For many people whose hearts sink hearing or watching the news… grieving a time lost, an era of what may appear to be hopelessness, i.e. 'what the hell is happening with our world,' because the avalanche of complex twists and turns with things changing from what they might have been a decade or more ago, the idea of grief may bring zero sense of closure.

And for those who are grieving the loss of something, which may appear to be as trivial like a TV show ending or a celebrity dying, goes beyond what it is – for many this "escapism" from all of the above said realities, and it may perhaps be the only existing refuge for those who have zero support systems to deal with said losses. 

Thus, it isn't really the loss of what appears to be the surface loss, but it is the "coping mechanism" to escape from deeper grief as the only way out for mindless pleasure, and to not feel so isolated or alone.  Many experience this with the loss of an icon/public figure, whose work may have gotten said human through tough times or perhaps remained the only hope for inspiration in symbolism of "If they are still here surviving, so can I."  The cross-association with said "identity" provides some connection with 'what is possible' - now being gone through said death.  This is where humans may feel their own will dissipating with said loss.

We as humans, as a culture, as a society need to look at grief and closure beyond saying the words.

Finding one’s self through the fire is what the human journey is all about.  It is here we understand the navigation, the coping mechanisms to deal with daily life, stretch the human capacity to rise to the soul level of awareness and somehow go beyond survival mode.

My hope is that I can create a new lens to see the human experience through understanding how the mind-body-soul-and-spirit connection work in cohesion with the energy around us by breeding a communication of thought-provoking concepts, ideas and generate a sense of knowing things go beyond the level in which you see things.

So my questions for you now are:

  • ·         Are you aware of how you feel your sense of closure?
  • ·         What brings you peace and comfort?
  • ·         How do you comfort and provide peace for others?
  • ·         Are you judgmental over someone’s process because it differs from yours?
  • ·         How do you compartmentalize the context of how you identify loss/grief?
  • ·         Do you know where your LINK of closure lies within your soul?
  • ·         How do you connect with your higher-self to pull yourself through the fire?
  • ·         What do you see as your emotional connection to everything around you from humans, pets, nature, your environment, your vices of escape, your career, your mattering in your own neighborhood and community and how do you apply your offering of help/assistance to others?

This may be deep thinking for your morning coffee, or even to ponder over a lunch hour, but my soul wishes to bring this greater awareness to the light of human consciousness to create an opportunity for you to go beyond yourself to learn more about what you don’t bother to ask yourself.

Thus… I am asking you here.   My bigger question is – What is your answer and HOW do you LINK TO CLOSURE?  

I will end this here, so the discussion in your own mind and heart can begin. 

My hope is you realize that closure creates openings for understanding ourselves and others better, and it is through this communication, I want to help you with yours.