Tuesday, May 15, 2018


WARNING:  If you are squeamish or you are eating, don’t read this, as it may gross you out.  

The elementary school nurse’s office and the First Aid kit is scary for most kids.  In the second grade, I saw one of my classmates fall off the monkey bars with a finger bent sideways protruding like some alien claw.  Another time, a classmate was coughing up green stuff.

But when it came to scrapes and cuts, it wasn’t such a scary place.  In fact, the nurse told all of us kids that we need not be afraid, because a clean wound was our friend, because it meant it could heal.  

In second grade, I had a friend who had a book of scabs.  When she fell down, and her scab healed, she would peel it off and glue it into a scrapbook.  To some, this is weird.  To some, this is sick.  However, before you judge, it will surprise you to understand the bigger picture of what this is.

One day, my friend saw the scrape on my knee from when I fell off the monkey bars.  I no longer had a Band-Aid on it.  She begged to pull off my scab and put it in her scrapbook, which was actually nicely organized.  It had the date of the injury and the date of healing.  It was like a diary of ‘boo-boos.’

At first, I was not quite sure what to make of it.  As I got older, I later came to understand she was trying to give me a gift beyond sharing her scab book with me.

Both of us believed the nurse and all she told us about a clean wound.  We were not afraid to confront the wound.  When we both fell down, we did not wince pouring rubbing alcohol in the wound.  It was not that we sickly enjoyed letting it sting like hell.   

Maybe it was strange we marveled at the hydrogen peroxide bubble, foaming up, sizzling like Alka Seltzer, but it wasn’t because it looked cool or like some science experiment.  It was something more.

Once clean, the wound would be healthy and be void of bacterial that could cause infection. The pain it would take to do the right thing would make us healthier in the end, no matter how scary it was as a thought to pour something in the wound that would hurt.

There was none of this throwing a Band-Aid over it to not look at it and confront it, rather it was just to keep it clean, but eventually the bandage would need to be ripped off – and swiftly.  Ahh… from here the wound can breathe. Liberation waited to be claimed in this ‘freedom.’ 

In life, many people like to use bandages metaphorically to cover something up they don’t want to look at, confront or face head-on. Perhaps the bandage is a way to avoid acknowledging what is underneath, never to be addressed.  In the end, if things are not addressed, then they are never fixed or healed.

My friend who kept the scab book kept her scabs like trophies – they represented something more. The book itself was to manifest a sense of resolve, completion in making a statement, an accomplishment.  “I healed.  Yes, I may fall again, but I WILL HEAL.  I have physical proof of this, therefore I must trust..”  This was her message.  This is what she was trying to say to me, by asking for my scab.

“Remember that time when you fell off the monkey bars on XYZ date and you’re your knee healed?  Look at your knee now, you’re okay.”

I am sharing this nugget so that you can see that you will heal, too.  No matter how many times you fall down in life, you will heal.  You cannot fail.  You just heal and start anew.
You have everything you need to be okay and succeed.  Maybe you feel scared.  It is human to feel scared, but you don’t have to let it isolate or paralyze you from doing something, because it is far scarier to attempt nothing and have no wounds, stories to tell, moments to share, victories, triumph and yes, healing.

Your LINK to healing begins by acknowledging you have nothing to fear because fear isn’t real.

Healing begins with reflection, introspection and above all the ability to broaden your willingness to be open to a having a new perspective on any situation you need to heal from.  Once you take this on, you can exorcise the negativity that may be holding you back from living your best life.   Why have an oozing, puss-filled infection underneath a bandage?  Cleaning and healing your deepest wounds will get you on the road to real healing.

While it is not comfortable, know that once you do this, you will be healed and won’t have to go through that process of addressing it again, if you do the work.

The ‘idea’ of putting a Band-Aid over a cut (granted we know it’s smart so it keeps out the dirt) – is like putting a rug over a stain on the wood floor.  Covering something up doesn’t make it go away.  Life’s events will happen whether or not you fall down and scrape your knee, and whether or not you cover them up, so why not clean up what is there and heal?

All of your wounds and scars make you who you are, show you what you can overcome and prove that you’re still here and you have lived through your experiences.  Declaring that you have overcome obstacles can be empowering, life changing and provide hope for others that they can get through challenges too and no one is truly alone.

This also leads to the pathway of self-acceptance and ownership of what you are made of and help you see that you are stronger, wiser, and more knowledgeable because of your experiences.

We get to become more honest with ourselves on what we need to solve, resolve, or dissolve.  This prevents us from wasting unnecessary time on things that do not matter.  Once we apply our time and dedicate it to healing, we experience true freedom.

True freedom allows us to spread our wings.  When we spread our wings, we can soar to discover life on another level instead of spending time licking those wounds and staying in a cocoon.  Life is about blossoming into new areas of growth and expansion to experience joy and ultimately, peace.

Digging deeper may not be easy and sure, it may sting a little at first. However, that LINK to healing begins with being your own Paleontologist, which you give yourself.  It is here, you are living in an expanded way, the way you were meant to and have a happiness you never thought was possible.

So remember… when you get hurt, you will heal and that healing can begin today.  Love yourself enough to know you are worth every second of your footwork you are doing to remove the obstacles and infections of your past so you can overcome whatever is holding you back from healing.  Be aware of your dimensions and appreciate your awareness factor in this moment that healing is possible.

With each day, that scab is going to be ready to come off – and it is waiting for you to let it go to say goodbye.  It’s your choice to let it all go so you don’t have to keep it with you forever.  The point is, it can be memorialized just like my second grade friend’s scab book, there is the date that it happened and the date that you can say…”I healed.”  Once you declare it, you are free.  Won’t that be something wonderful to look forward to?