He said. She said. They said. Communication is the most important LINK in
the entire chain of your LIFE LINKS. You already know this.
But did you know - It is the foundation of how you function
in the world and therefore shapes your entire journey?
Communication is more than just a 2-way street. There is quite a bit of communication which
sadly, never gets communicated. This is the major component to the following
LINKS:
- Misunderstanding
- Assumption
- Judgment
- Imposition
- Frustration
- Resentment
Do you want to remove the above LINKS from your life? The key to doing that is to improve your
communication by understanding that communication is more than just
talking. It involves knowing what you
are talking about when it comes to communicating from a factual and truthful
place emotionally.
WATCH THIS AND START BY USING YOUR VOICE:
This is hard for most people to do because they want to fit
in instead of being themselves to speak from their own minds and hearts.
“Acceptance” begins with you – and it is an inside job. Whatever you say in order to gain it from the
outside world will never be enough because if you don’t already possess it
WITHIN.
Humans presume that other humans automatically ‘know’ what
they are thinking or feeling. When one
communicates assuming everyone is a ‘mind reader’ – they are setting themselves
up for miscommunication on many levels.
If words are not articulated in an exact measure, you can continue to
‘expect’ others to ‘read your mind,’ – but you are setting yourself up for the
idea that everyone will already assume what you mean.
We can also ‘assume’ when we automatically default to a
place of having excellent communication and thinking we are always on the same
page with someone as we exchange. However
depending on where one is at the time of receiving said communications, we may
not be having the conversation completely or fully, perhaps only subconsciously
based on emotional connection. This is due to feeling as one is thinking and
therefore communicating on all of these cylinders which may not be necessary at
the time of the present communication.
Communication also has a way of LINKING to one’s own
perspective. People can pass judgment
instantly when some need or want is not met while having said communications,
without having previously communicated the need by reading their minds.
Other times, humans say one thing and actually mean another
by not using the right words or conveying complete thoughts, and then get angry
when they are not understood.
There is yet another scenario where communication is
completely misinterpreted based on the recipient immediately imposing their own
ideas of what they think someone said, when that was not the line of communication
at all.
Lastly, there is the other situation where many may not know
the answers to questions asked or merely ‘avoid’ answering them because they
don’t wish to feel stupid, so they ‘guess’ at what they THINK the recipient
would like to hear or would likely accept as a valid answer.
The truth in all of these situations is that TRUTH is in
there somewhere, but none of these situations are communications based on the
foundation of truth.
WHY?
- Insecurities
- Lack of knowledge
- Inability to be honest
- Ego
- Pride
- Ignorance
- Narcissism and only seeing one point of view
And the biggest one… NOT BEING LINKED TO THEIR THOUGHTS AND
FEELINGS.
This is why understanding the connection of where you are at
with both of these things is important.
When you are LINKED to your thoughts and feelings from your truthful
place communication is pure. If you are
disconnected because you are more connected to your cell phone or computer than
you are connected to human life, you have lost the essence of what
communication is.
Long before technology, humans had more in person face time.
Communication was more effective because you could hear tone
of voice, you could see facial expressions and pick up the REAL ENERGY off
someone’s body language and auric vibe instead of trying to dissect what the
heck the emoji is trying to convey.
In other words, communication was more Hi-Def than any of
our devices can give us.
Imagine a dinner party and what it would be like to only be
there virtually. You’re only getting
part of the experience. You’re not
getting to taste and smell the food or feel the temperature of the room or even
hear the neighbors next door doing Karaoke.
You cannot catch a smirk or sigh from the sidelines of your friend who
is acknowledging that one of the other guests is sharing the same story once
again.
The problem with communication today is that many of the traditional
and conventional social skills have been stunted due to the co-dependence put
upon technology to carry out the task of communication. The more ‘conditioned’ humans become to this,
bad habits form in terms of having real conversation.
Relationships become two-dimensional and start to lose their
initial stock value of what made the connection special from initiation.
If you have to find out by way of social media that someone
you are close to has a benchmark moment in their life and that has become the
only way you find out this news, it is a sign that your communication circle
has shifted and changed …and not for the better.
It’s become flimsy and meaningless and dumbed down to TRUTH
being that this is the new normal of what society is coming to.
You do NOT have to accept this new normal as your standard
way of being. In fact, it’s healthier if you DON’T.
What happens when human behavior merges with bad habits and
that the bad habits become integrated into daily actions. This is what social activity has become and
real social engagement has actually become more shallow than true human
connection.
We can choose to change and shift this by exercising our
minds in a retrained learned behavior in reverse from how we’ve chosen to
accept communications today.
For example, during a phone conversation if the person you
are speaking with starts to use hashtags or acronyms in everyday language, you
have the power to stop the conversation to shift back to using real words. The same can be said for industry terms and
lingo – break out of the habit of the daily crutches you’ve chosen to adapt as
your way of communication. It doesn’t
make you hipper, cooler or ‘on fleek’ by using language in a medium which said
words do NOT apply.
This action alone reminds us of the importance how we can
change and shift communication breakdown.
Eliminating fear in using real words is also something we
can do as humans. You do not need to
keep using symbols to say what you need to say unless of course it is on
Twitter where you are limited to 140 characters. Stop using symbols in texts on your phone and
instead DIAL the phone and make the call.
If you have time to post nineteen symbols and thumbs ups and hearts and such,
you have time to speak said words on the very device that was designed
initially to make a call.
Taking time to reclaim our communication style rather than
simply adapt to what everyone is doing will improve upon daily interaction and
eliminate our ‘shortcuts’ and avoidance of meaningful exchanges.
It is with this, we can increase a balance within our well-being
to comprehend life and conversations better.
Namaste.
