Thursday, October 18, 2018


The brain fog is surreal when you are operating at turbo speed with all cylinders of your sensory overload going on simultaneously.

This sentence may be foreign to some who have had blinders on in their day-to-day living the status quo.

This sentence may be all-too-familiar if you are a creative with what feels like an A.D.D. “ahhhhhhh” vibration resonating through your limbs, wanting to write, create, produce, share, pound the pavement, push things in overdrive, while also flying in higher consciousness to honor your soul’s true passion and heart to the core.

The reflective Zen kumbaya part of your soul says, “Chill out, relax, take it in, sit for a minute, appreciate, digest and be grateful for this beautiful chaos.  Gently unravel the tangled knot of what’s going on and calmly organize.”

The ambitious-achiever part of your human says, “Go, go, go… logistically hammer out the proactive mode of productivity, early bird catches the worm.” 

This Lovely Souls is called the human-soul dance we do when we achieve spiritual nirvana with the realization that time is both not real (in the soul sense) and real (in the shelf-life of finite time on this planet).

The bigger question is … Where are you and what do you do with this?

As I endured a soul-excavating journey through the streets of New York, my mind swirled with both the adrenaline rush and the higher wisdom calm as I (no joke according to my pedometer) walked 115 miles for a week’s time into the unknown.

This much-needed therapeutic dichotomy was life-affirming and life changing, experiencing Mother Nature’s menopausal laughter with near 80 degree temperatures with high humidity one day with a frigid wind-chill of fall/winter turning on a dime the next.  For good measure, throwing in some rain never hurt anyone and like Gene Kelly, I was singing and dancing in it, thanking my teenage Disney days of bringing tours of people to the Country Bear Jamboree hearing that song on loop repeat.  

“Let the stormy clouds chase everyone from the place, come on with the rain, I have a smile on my face.” 

The lyric mantra made me laugh as I watched people throw their hoods on, pop open umbrellas and walk like speed demons with some organized chaos so much more efficiently and impressively succinct in harmony in comparison to the Los Angelenos (sorry/truth/keeping it real) who freak out at the sight of a few droplets. 

The concept of time and energy contrast is enlightening and epic if we allow ourselves to marinate our psyche into the greater depths of existence.

While this energy embraced my being for my soul’s affirmation of purposeful existence, for my human the motivation is so extreme to exorcise my ambitious desires of expression into infinite possibilities that appear unfathomable like inhaling and exhaling with only one breath. 

It is a laughable paradox, I proudly and unapologetically express in a raw, naked and transparent honesty that I’m still grappling with.  

I am sure some will judge my honesty. That’s okay, your perceptions are your own, they have nothing to do with the authentic experience anyone has as they walk through said fire and rain at the same time. 

This is called life. Your journey is your own. If you can relate and resonate, great. If this does not apply to you, then perhaps you can open a window or door to new said experiences of your human/soul existence?   Just a thought... you might surprise yourself!

Lovely Souls, I thought I would take the time to share this as a way of helping you ‘be human’ in your ‘soul existence’ to ask yourself the question of what matters to you when you fluctuate between these two realities…. 

What do you feel?   

What do you think?   

What do you choose for your ultimate way of managing these gem-filled spheres of beauty?  

Have you given this thought?  If not, why not?

Do you repel such beautiful self-actualization?  Why do that? 

Isn’t it wonderful to be able to have the complete awareness of all vibrations within your two existences? 

As I sit and celebrate this lovely position of being for the moment, calming restraining my human from doing long enough to appreciate this moment for actually existing, I ask you to allow your soul and human to do the same when you experience realizations, and let the epiphanies wash over you in your own self-discovery.

None of us are ever ‘done’ with learning. No matter how much footwork you have done in your own journey, there is always opportunity to experience your own upward spiraling escalation in the awareness expansion for your being.

As you take in your day to honor your thoughts and feelings, I encourage you to give yourself the time and space to take it in at your own pace. 

You are permitted to set boundaries from external energy interfering with this process and need not feel guilty for saying, “hey, give me a minute to sit with this.. I need to breathe.”
We humans often feel obligated to be on 24/7.  It’s not healthy to always be ‘on.’

  •  Choose a quiet place to sit to reflect.

  • Journal your thoughts to see with your own eyes, what is going on in your mind.

  • Refrain from external influence (opinions, other people’s graffiti on your brain).
  • Allow yourself the space to be confused in the joy.

  • Realize that change is inevitable and that part of your transformation is for your highest good.

  • Relax in the idea that everything you’ve just experienced is to propel you forward in newness.
  • Trust the space of where you are and don’t feel you are rushed or pushed to hurry the process.

  • Give yourself pauses through your busy day to check in with how you’re processing everything.

Coming from my world of media, I am aware of this more than others not in the industry how hard it is to feel normal when you have expectations put upon you to be ‘on.'  

I am here to say that it’s okay to literally allow yourself to be off life’s camera lens of being ‘on’ in the world to cocoon with your own thoughts once in a while. 

In fact, it is necessary, essential for our own health and wellness to BE and be allowed to BE without the pressures of being ‘on.’  Sure, at work, at school or anytime you are outside your home, it is not always easy to be the perfect _________(xyz).  This is especially true for caregivers of the elderly or people in service industries, where you are expected to shine, smile, and appear like your thoughts and feelings are pristinely organized in compartments. 

When we get comfortable enough to be able to take our own sabbaticals to disconnect from the obligations for a breather; we see the power we can gain to reconnect our human and soul in a new way.

It is here you will discover the magical feeling of “renewal.”  

It is here you can refortify the energies to move forward and change what can become a better and healthier mindset.  

Trust that it is okay to dissect the whirlwind and give yourself the chance to sit in the integrated energies of what you are currently experiencing.

Give yourself permission to sift through ‘what is’ to let the realizations find you in a way to help you clarify what and where you’d like to apply your newfound fortification… you’ll be glad you did.

Until then… “walk down the lane, with a happy refrain… just singin', singin' in the rain.”