Monday, February 25, 2019


A fresh start, a new beginning, a clean slate – these ‘references’ of life carry the vibration of being optimistic, open and filled with hope.  

This ‘opportunity’ is something that most people can relate to with the New Year beginning and it is why everyone gets excited about ‘what is to come’ and ‘what could be’ and ‘not knowing’ what will occur as part of a new adventure in life. 

It is exciting, isn’t it?  That feeling of not knowing what great surprises of joy may come and what could happen, is like a little adrenaline rush.

So why is it that when “change” actualizes and happens, people get anxious, nervous, some get uncomfortable, and frustrated?  

Why do people oppose change and sometimes become unhappy and scared? 

Where did that exciting feeling go?  

The theory that change has to be suddenly overwhelming, daunting, and downright “icky” to cope with may be a normal knee-jerk reaction when you feel out of control and unable to have a voice in the matter.

However, that does not have to paralyze you from accepting that things fall away in order to make room for new energy to enter your world.

Do you remember that ‘fresh start’ feeling? 

There seems to be high contrast when a fresh start happens on your terms, as it is viewed as positive.

However, when change happens to you, it is viewed as negative.

The bigger question…Why the double standard? 

Change will happen regardless, because nothing stays the same. However, where you have no control is in HOW it happens, and in what exact order that happens, and more importantly if said change is by your plan.  The reason for this is because there is a bigger divine plan. 

Once you begin to understand this concept, this is where acceptance begins.

Most people will struggle only when they cannot accept, but you have the power to eliminate the struggle by accepting. This is where the transformation occurs.

Why can’t a ‘fresh start’ with change you make happen, and the change that happens without your control have the very same resonance? 

Is it because you feel powerless and not in ‘control’ of change? 

Is it because you are going into uncharted territory? 

Here is where you get the opportunity to see how you choose to react vs. act.

First, give up the idea that you get to direct how the change happens and that it will happen according to your own script. 

Life does not work this way, as you probably already know, it has many unexpected twists and turns for real reasons you do not know.  It is not your job to figure everything out for everyone involved, but it is your job to decide how you will deal with these unexpected curve balls.  

THIS is the beautiful part… you get to be surprised with the unexpected and sometimes that turns out even better than you could have planned for yourself. Here is where the real change happens because you transform in the interim.  

Most people believe in the cause and effect theory. But there is this quiet space/place in what I call the “in-between” where most people miss the opportunity to digest, marinate, reflect and evaluate.  It is human nature to want to jump in to resolve right away, but sometimes in doing so, you miss the beauty in what can happen when you are the one doing the changing and adapting in the process. 

It is in the small nuances the most accelerated growth happens, because most cannot sit still in the silence. 

Let’s try something…
Sit quietly. Take a deep breath…. And another.  Allow your mind to create a blank page, forgetting all what just occurred.  Ask yourself what you would have done about ten minutes ago inside of any struggle you may be facing.

Was it to try to escape or run?  Fix or solve? Deny or blame?  Censor or shut off the flow of spirit or another’s interaction?  How about assess or examine? 

Most do not choose the latter as their first choice – but you will do yourself a huge favor if you do this and ask yourself WHY this change is occurring.  Perhaps you’ve become blind to things you need to be seeing for your own transformation, and it is only inside of the assessment pool will you be able to understand the change that is happening as it is happening. 

Does this mean that what you want won’t happen?  No. 

However, it may not happen the way you want it to happen and it is only in resistance you struggle because you do not accept the idea that not all change is in your proactive sphere.
Sometimes change happens when you decide to rest in being as you are, where you are, as change happens all around you in order for you to step into a new arena you wouldn’t have been able to otherwise. 

It is here you can be set free to grow, change, and transform for your pathway seeing the bigger picture of what is changing around you.  

This simple state of being can help you reflect on what you CAN CHANGE and that is your very own perception of how YOU LINK and attach yourself to the idea of a blank page in your life. 

Remember, it is YOUR journey… so the bigger question is, what will you put on it?  How will you punctuate it?  What do you want to see when you reflect back a year from now as to what you did with your actions and reactions?  

If you subscribe to the idea that change helps YOU to grow, that is all you have control over – your willingness or resistance. This is where you choose to do what is difficult and challenging in order to grow, or simply get out of your old way of dealing with things. 

When you accept the change within yourself first, that you never stay the same – you’ll be able to accept the change in your environment, seeing it as a way for you to expand your own awareness and consciousness for the changes that are to come.