The world has been
through so much, right?
Communities all over the world have had so much
hardship and every continent has had its heartbreak as all of us have ridden this horrifically painful wave together. What is extremely alarming is
the fact that it seems we have had far too many tragedies one right after the
other to process, that we simply cannot humanly process so much, so fast, in such an
extreme abundance simultaneously. It is just too much for the human heart to deal
with. But here we are. And we are not
alone.
When it seems as though
we are being thrown tragic news story after tragic news story, emotions are
stirring worldwide in a way that many human souls are struggling with how to
cope beyond comprehension.
It’s
difficult. Some are trying to stay
strong. Some don’t even have the energy
to stay strong. Some are so emotionally, mentally and physically depleted, they
are not even sure they have the strength to be the pillar of strength for
others... to put on that brave face to greet each day. It's not easy.
Everyone has thoughts,
feelings, and opinions… and everyone is feeling grief, heartbreak, and sorrow
somewhere, everywhere, every single day.
In times like these, some
people express themselves to heal.
Passionate and emotion-filled conversation has a realistic duality. Sometimes conversation has a way of comforting…
while other times it has a way of disturbing/disrupting others stirring the pot that is already bubbling over – depending on
how the communication is presented/delivered and/or received, processed and
analyzed... and whether or not it contains faux pas, errors, lack of judgment, lack of sensitivity or heart.
We all must be thoughtful
with our words.
Read that again: We all
must be THOUGHTFUL of our words.
Intention can be
confusing for many who are overwhelmed and experiencing a myriad of emotions
all at once.
Some cannot contain
anger, frustration, or pain. Others are
so emotionally charged that even the most sensitive and loving words can be
taken out of context because there is so much rawness happening at one time. While others are swirling in chaos and words
come out and they are not expressed as the heart initially intended.
In times like these, some
people feel helpless.
Others use their voice.
Others sadly choose to attack
others for using their voice and nothing gets accomplished but continued abusive conversation which is combative and harmful. This needs to stop.
While there are some others who are so
paralyzed to know the ‘right’ or ‘politically correct’ thing to say, do, think,
feel, act or react because of all of the above and observing what has happened – they remain silent and stir alone isolated in their
thoughts. This is not healthy either. This needs to change.
While it may appear that
everything has already been said before, there is always room for repeating
words that can do the following:
LINK TO RESPECT.
These are three words
that are not to be taken lightly, but when communication boils down to being
simply words (with or without emojis), respect must always be considered when
connecting to ANYONE AND EVERYONE.
Everyone has opinions and
thoughts… But we MUST NOT FORGET that everyone also has feelings and that some
of these feelings are still a work in progress in the present moment to where
they cannot even be understood. There are consequences in hurting someone’s
feelings from miscommunication.
We see it each and every
day.
Until you have walked
through someone’s shoes yourself, while you may have all the compassion in the
world in your heart, keep in mind – everyone’s journey is different. Everyone’s footsteps and experience in those
shoes or out of them … yes, different.
Don’t forget that – EVER. It's important to know individual experiences affect everything depending on what the individual has endured and where they are coming from.
When we return to
emotions – also keep in mind, everyone is PROCESSING THEM DIFFERENTLY AS WELL.
There is no “correct
order” to process emotions. There just
isn’t.
Based on your own
personal life experience, you were taught to react to situations very
differently than your best friend, your neighbor, or relative. Not everyone goes through the grief process
exactly the same. Different cultures,
different generations, different individual families – every single situation
is different.
Some people remain in
shock and are numb and have to digest what the heck just happened.
Others are immediately angry and
questioning.
While others are so
grief-stricken there are simply not enough words in their vocabulary to even
express exactly what it is they are feeling, but they are sobbing
uncontrollably and cannot even breathe. All of this is normal. There is no right or wrong way to process
pain, grief, loss, and tragedy.
What we can all do at a
time like this is simply LINK TO RESPECT and provide comfort and prayer, peace
and love and be aware that every human suffers and struggles. It is in our own KINDNESS,
GENTLENESS, OPENNESS AND GENEROSITY - that we can be of service.
At the end of the day, our
respect for each other has the opportunity to create a ripple effect when it
comes to communicating and relating, healing and recovering – but more
importantly understanding how to show up and even more importantly HOW TO
LISTEN.
You see when respect is
in place it provides fertile ground for listening to happen. PEACE can only
have an opportunity to grow if there is A PLACE TO SHARE SAFELY WITHOUT FEAR to
unite for solutions, carefully listening AND HEARING from a real place.
And only when you have
that, do you have the foundation for ACCEPTANCE to actually be born.
When you have the
foundation for ACCEPTANCE to be born, you have the opportunity for OPENNESS
toward new vision, new perspective and no judgment for anyone or anything –
rather you can connect from a place that allows acceptance to breed LOVE.
When you have LOVE, it is
so powerful that it can HEAL, COMFORT, ENCOURAGE, ASSIST, GIVE, GROW, NURTURE, SUPPORT
and FORTIFY. Only then can LOVE CAN
SPREAD BEYOND its limitations and conditions with the potential to breed
COMPASSION, CO-EXISTENCE, and UNDERSTANDING.
But it all boils down to
RESPECT from the start. This is what we
must all focus on.
If you practice respect –
it can be so powerful that it can grow beyond you, your friends, your family,
your classroom, your work, your church, your playground, your differences, your
neighborhood, your local community, your regional community, your entire state,
and onto other states and onto other countries and suddenly respect has its own
ripple effect.
It all begins with each
of us. RESPECT is the core component.
Taking RESPONSIBILITY for
CONSCIOUSNESS is key. Where there is
CONSCIOUSNESS…. There is SELFLESSNESS.
Where there is SELFLESSNESS….. there is UNIFICATION of people being on
the same page. Ego must be completely
removed and instead, we must collectively look at SOLUTION-ORIENTED
conversation that is rooted in a place where we can SHARE PEACEFULLY to RESOLVE…TOGETHER.
So while this may have
all been said before… due to the state of our world right now, this deserves
repeating.
LINK TO RESPECT.
It all begins with each
of us if we are to heal together peacefully and strengthen our human connection.
Namaste.
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